Help needed please. It is a long story but I have decided that I cannot have my inlaws again this Xmas, FIL is incontinent, for no medical reason and just sleeps all day - his GP said there is no reason for this any tests come back negative, he is doing it because he wants to. MIL is really needy and always has been and there is a battle going on between them because she wants to be looked after and does not want it the other way round and he has now decided he cannot be bothered. He won't shower, stinks to high heaven and last year wee'd over my toilet floor twice on Xmas day, not dribbles, great big puddles and instead of spending my day having a good time, I was clearing up his mess. MIL is very tactless and will say things without caring who she upsets and after 15 years of doing xmas I have had enough. There are 2 DILs one is single and lives in France, the other has older married children and live Kent and they do not offer to help, MIL prefers us anyway as I have a young DS. I do not really want to go out for xmas dinner, but cannot bear the thought of another spolit day and the fact the FIL just messes himself whilst asleep, even with pads. I feel a real monster for doing this, my DH is going to speak to them but I know if they are on their own on Xmas day he will be unhappy. but I desperately want a quite stress free Xmas for once.
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