Mum is 79 in 2 weeks. We lost Dad to Alzheimers 3 years ago. Since then she has lost all interest in anything.
She has issues with her health, she refuses to go to the dentist which has resulted in her losing her teeth and having difficulty eating. This also means she won't go anywhere for a meal or indeed attend any family occasion or even come round to mine for a cuppa.
I have also noticed that her house (and herself) is starting to smell, I don't know if she is incontinent or how on earth I bring this up but after a visit I feel dirty. She can't cope with anything, I see to her finances and she even has trouble worrying about her cat, I have to change the litter tray as she can't even do that. I don't know what she eats but she's lost loads of weight due to not eating properly.
She refuses to have her pension paid into the bank which means I had to set up a direct debit from her savings into her current account so her bills get paid, she just draws out her pension at the post office for things like food but it oblivious to the fact her savings after being used up for her bills, she doesn't understand as Dad used to deal with all the money stuff.
The only thing she lives for is my disabled brother, it's all she cares about, I feel like I am an only child as I have his care/support/finances to manage as she has happily handed over the reigns but is first to criticise...
Many problems, how can I help her, I am also concerned about her speech memory as if this isn't enough..
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skyblue11 · 07/04/2013 17:06
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