I feel like its become an inevitability of one or the other of them being acutely ill at any point in time.
But for the last week, dads been in intense pain - he thought it might be a DVT (hes had them before), OOH dr wouldn't see him, GP came and said it was prob his hip and gave him paracetamol, and he's spent the week unable to walk without 2 sticks (even a metre) and crawling to the loo.
Last couple of days, unable to drink or eat without vomiting.
So now, he's in hospital, mum is deeply confused about it all (this is not saying a lot), and I'm 80 miles away, and fretting.
And MAU never answer the phone - which I understand, they are busy, but its kind of nice to know something about your relative.
I get the feeling that the NHS just doesn't want to deal with anyone over 80. We had to move my father to private care to get his heart sorted out. My mother can't get a GP appointment at all, it seems.
So, it turns out that dad was in severe urinary retention last night when admitted, and has had to be catheterised. They are trying to find out why this has happened and if he has damaged his kidneys. He has been moved to another hospital which is much nicer, and which mum can get to. I've been in meetings today I couldn't get out of, but am going to call in a favour to get a customer to pop in on him today and will go tomorrow
He'd actually been seen by the ambulance last weekend, and their decision very tree involves OOH...
My (very lovely) customer went and sorted him out with the bedside phone and reported back to me as to how he was, and I phoned him just now. He's been given morphine for the pain, and is very tired. Said I'd phone him in the morning and then visit
Mum is just about OK, but I'll have to sort something out if he's in there much longer due to the cooking issue.
I feel so conflicted, like I need to be with them, but thats just not possible between work and my own family. Gaaah !