NC, sorry, because I feel so upset and ashamed. DD is 17 and I've found out she's been bingeing. I think she's had disordered eating for a few years and I've tried talking to her but she disappears into herself. Recently I think things have escalated, she eats tiny meals but I just found a huge bag of empty packets of biscuits and chocolates that she ate on her way home this evening. I asked her if she was having problems, stress or whatever and she got upset and seemed ashamed and angry and said that she binged when she was away from me because it was her only chance to get that kind of food.
I feel terrible because in many ways she is right. I remember she once cried because she was gaining weight and couldn't resist muffins/cakes etc at school and could I help her control things and buy healthy food. Gradually I've become the food police, only healthy stuff at home. The problem is that we've become entrenched in our roles. I wonder if she has always relied on me to control things and has never learned her own hunger and appetite. Now she has a car/allowance and freedom the situation has got worst. She says can't enjoy food, it's not an emotional thing, more a rebellion against me.
She is a lovely gorgeous girl, a high achiever and a healthy weight, she says she doesn't purge and I believe her but she is a dancer and with her personality type at risk of other eating disorders.
I want to help but everything I've done so far has made things worse.
Please help me, I don't know what food to buy, I don't know what to cook. I feel lost.
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Eating disorders
DD bingeing and I think it's my fault, what can I do?
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anotherguiltymum · 19/11/2014 11:46
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