I'm sick of being told by my husband that if it wasn't for him we wouldn't have anything. We've just returned from living overseas for 4 years, we left when our child was 14m. I gave up a good career to support my husband in his decision for us to go overseas and whilst I'm incredibly grateful to him that I didn't have to work and got to enjoy so much precious time with our child (who was conceived after fertility issues) I always thought that we were acting as a partnership, now I'm not sure.
I'm finding it very hard to get a job in the uk as I took 5 years out and am now in my late forties. And yes I have been trying. Before we left for overseas life as a family my husband worked overseas on his own for 2 and a half years and I fully supported his decision to want to do this on his own, even though we lived together at the time and we were having fertility issues.
So am I being unreasonable now to resent him telling me if it wasn't for him we'd have nothing? I may not have been supporting us financially for the last four years but I had a good job before I gave it up, and contributed half of the mortgage. It was also through my persistence in pursuing ivf that we had a child. I have always done all the housework cooking ironing childcare etc etc and I always thought that we were a partnership. Now he's constantly telling me it's thanks to him we have anything and always making remarks like what do you do all day, why are you tired, what do you contribute etc etc. it's really getting me down and I'm feeling like I'm irrelevant.
I honestly don't know what to do as every time I try and talk to him about it it ends up in an argument.
Have had enough. Am I being selfish?
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alisonis48 · 21/09/2016 22:33
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