Hi, this is my first time posting. My husband and i are separating after having problems and trying to make things work for a very long time.
Basically I felt trapped - sulky, moody, not liking me going out with friends, always wanting to just go out as a family, constantly questioning whatever money I spent (even if was only a couple of ponds in a charity shop - I have never been over the top with spending) If went out was moody if was later than expected getting back etc. He is also very strict on kids (have 4) to the point of giving punishments for the slightest things. I couldnt cope anymore.
I ended it in January, and his reaction was to start contacting women, going out and starting a relationship with another woman. All while refusing to move out, expecting me to still cook, clean and wash his clothes. He is demanding half of the child benefit and I have to tell him everything I buy for kids with it.
I managed to get him to leave in May, but he persuaded me to take him back and give our marriage one last go and promised to leave if it didnt.
It hasnt work and I have told him I dont love him anymore as too much as happened and I cant get the feelings back and forgive everything.
Now he is refusing to move out unless I sign 2 kids over to him so he can get a 3 bed council house as he says he cant afford to rent private. I have refused and he is threatening to tell kids I have forced him out if I do anything to get him to leave (ie if I end tenancy on current house)
I just dont know what to do, I cant take it anymore. He is nasty, abrupt when talking to me, constantly causing silly arguements then says its me reading into things. he is manipulating the children by playing the ott best dad role over everything. He is a good dad, but not always the most emotionally supportive with them, he guilt trips them a lot if they dont want to do things his way.
Any advice would be much appreciated. Many thanks x
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Feeling hopeless - Seperating and OH wont move out
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LOZEmy4 · 04/09/2016 16:57
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