Hi all, I hope you can help. I am trying to divorce my narcissistic ex husband. It has been dragging through courts and been going on for around 3 years. He has now put in a child arrangement order in which he cites that he fears for domestic violence for our son and himself, and that he has not had contact for six months.
None of this is true and in fact it's always me that tries to get him to see our son. I'm disabled so I need all the help I can get! He was also arrested 3 years ago for assaulting me and I have been in counselling for domestic violence etc since. Given that he currently sees DS for just under the time he is requesting, I see this as more of an attack on me than anything to do with child arrangements.
I'd like to know about peoples experiences in court for the first hearing. Is it possible to do it without a solicitor or barrister? I have loads of documents from social services, DV agencies etc that I can provide. But is this something they will want to see? I haven't heard from a CARFCASS officer yet so unclear as to how to proceed.
In terms of contact, ExH pretty much gets what he has already asked for, and I know that he will eventually lose interest in our son and not bother to see him all the time - which is exactly what he did to the children of his previous marriage. So I'm not too worried about actual contact, and happy to negotiate regarding this.
I'd be grateful on any advice about how to move forward.
Many thanks
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awana · 06/09/2015 11:10
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