so lonely

[emptynest15]

My husband and I have recently seperated but have to live together for financial reasons for the next year or two. He told me 3 months ago he no longer wanted to be with me. He said there was no one else but I know he had met someone online and formed an emotional relationship. He has admitted they are now in a relationship, she's alot younger than him and has young children. He spends his weekends away. Our children are older and away at college.
I devoted my life to my family and have never needed much else. I'm finding the sense of loss and the lonlieness really hard to deal with. I have good friends but they have familes and their own life to lead. My kids have returned to college and I have never felt so alone. I work at home and I'm used to my own company so I don't understand why I'm struggling so much.

[MidnightVelvetthe3rd]

Maybe you're struggling because it wasn't your choice to be alone, it was forced upon you

Get yourself out to the WI (even if you're under 80) take up a class, get yourself out & meet new people :) it can be daunting but worthwhile.

I know some people do have to stay together for financial reasons but just make sure that these reasons are not just to benefit him rather than you x

[emptynest15]

Thank you for the advice. It certainly was trust upon me and was a complete shock.
The sense of loss and lonlieness is something I didnt understand until it happened to me. I know it will get better but Sundays are the worst. It's a day I've always loved but now I hate it.

[TaraG23]

Join a rock choir google them. (you don't need to sing for some of these group ones), go to a slimming club, (even if you don't really need to) both of these places are a way of meeting people who are sometimes in similar situations. And if not, they will at least make you feel good about yourself and give you something to look forward to each week.