My Story
I have 4 grownup children and grandchildren my BF is year older than me.
I met my BF when he had been divorced a year so I think that there was still a lot of hurt on both sides. We have been together 18 months now and we spend every weekend and usually one evening a week together. He and his ex have 2 children. There is a son in his late teens and a daughter who is under 5. When I first met him my BF he explained that sadly since he left the marital home his son will have nothing to do with him and the behaviour by his ex has shown me that she really encourages this.
His daughter is an absolute joy but I am very aware that she isn't mine so she has a special nickname for me that only she is allowed to use. Her Mum has never spoken to me so doesn't even know me and sadly her little girl is fully aware that her mother hates me as she has told me many times the only way I can think to help her is to tell her not to worry as Mummy doesn't know me. I am sad that a little girl so young has learnt that she has to watch what she says to her Mummy about me otherwise she gets a hard time.
I would like to send the following message to her mother as I know you read this forum every day.
I will always show your daughter love and affection not to wind you up but because she is a child.
I will never say anything bad about you to her not because I care about your feelings but because I care about hers.
I will always try to protect her from harm because as I said before she is a child.
If this isn't enough for you then that is your problem not mine but your daughter is already learning that the lies you are telling her about me aren't coming true what a sad thing for a little girl to know.
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Do What's Best for your Child not for You. (Sorry very long)
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Jakap · 24/04/2015 09:43
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