This morning H and I had another row. Things haven't been great for years and I've recently instigated couples counselling, our first session is on Tuesday.
Since I instigated this things have gone from bad to worse, with H now sleeping in the spare room and not communicating at all (which actually is one of the major issues in our relationship. He believes he's keeping us together by never verbalising when things are bothering him whereas I wish I knew what was bothering him so we could try and fix it).
This morning I asked him why he's been choosing to sleep in the spare room for the last few nights and it led to an almighty row - again - in front of our 3 and 6-year-olds. Unfortunately I mentioned separation, which I am disappointed in myself for, and our 6-year-old started asking a lot of questions.
I explained that we love her very much, that H and I are having some disagreements that are nothing to do with her and her sister and that we were going to get someone to help us talk through our disagreements to see if we can fix things. My H is fuming that I've said this.
He's gone off to work in a rage and I am very disappointed in myself for involving the children - although they have been aware of our arguments already.
I don't really know why I'm posting. I don't know what to do for the best. We have some very deep rooted issues that have been ongoing for years and I have been struggling for the last year or so and just recently decided that I couldn't ignore the issues any longer.
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Arguing in front of children
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vanillavelvet · 14/03/2015 10:56
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