My husband is talking of leaving. I trust him to be reasonable and to do the right thing - to a point. Having grown up with divorced parents I know first hand that everything is fine until there are new partners are involved, and therefore i can't be certain that he will always be honourable.
I have been a stay at home mum for over ten years, with three children and my youngest child is 6. I gave up a career job that I could not go back into. When I met my husband I had a flat that we released equity from to buy our current home. We then got married. We rent out this flat. In the past couple of years I used some money my grandmother left me to use as a deposit and jointly buy with my sister an investment flat. I have since bought another property using a family loan to secure the deposit, with other family members. These properties are heavily mortgaged.
My husband earns a fairly large wage, such as I could never hope to earn now.
To further complicate things we are in the process of selling our current home as it is too small and buying a larger house that needs lots of work. This new house will stretch our finances in the sense of a larger mortgage commitment. I have asked to continue with the house purchase as otherwise I will be stuck in a house that is not big enough for myself and my children.
What can I expect? Can I expect him to carry on supporting me not working? Or will I have to find a job? This makes me sad for the children as they will go through enough change without me suddenly getting childcare and being a stressed working mum on a low income.
If we divorce, what can I expect? Will he have a claim to my investment properties? Should I perhaps be proactive and offer him the flat I bought before we met and then I keep the house? This worries me as the flat was always going to be my pension.
I have no interest in screwing my husband over, but I do want to protect myself.
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Husband leaving and worried about my financial future
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Molly1386 · 25/12/2014 21:46
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