I was in denial about the state of my marriage until last year when dh threatened to kick the back door of the house in unless I left work early to bring him house keys because he'd locked himself out. I stupidly did it but it was as though my eyes had suddenly opened.
I saw for the first time that I have lived with a controlling bully for the last 12 years and we had a massive show down, he refused to leave and I then discovered I was pg so we've tried to make a go of things again and if I'm honest, things have improved a lot. He no longer tells me to "get the kettle on" when he wants a cup of tea. He no longer makes negative comments about my appearance. He has done more (ie something) with this baby unlike the previous 2 who he lay in bed and let me bring up. He hasn't got legless drunk and broken anything, peed all over the toilet seat and stayed in bed all day although his past actions still leave me an anxious wreck before every social occasion. He now looks after the kids if I go to exercise classes and as I'll be returning to work FT the intention is that he'll reduce working hours to care for baby.
But the damage is done, he's not a good husband, he's not a kind man and I don't want my children to grow up believing this is a healthy marriage. I've recently told him I don't want to live with him anymore but after the conversation he just acts like nothing has been said & we just plod on. I know I'll need to see a solicitor to get him out but I don't feel like I have the strength to live with someone while I go through legal proceedings is this the only way?
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what to do if dh won't leave
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breakingthebank · 19/08/2014 09:30
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