im at my lowest ive ever been

[lisamcd1979]

My husband and myself went out for a year or so, split up and got back togethet 3 mobths later. I then fell pregnant about 3 months after that. He then proposed we got married and a year later he is now leaving me.

We have a house together.

Things have been very difficult. I admit I snap at him sometimes and I know I shouldn't.

I feel I get no support from him emotionally or around the house etc. Hes slagged me off to work colleagues. Both our jobs are closely linked but with seperate companies. Ive not said a word to anyone.

I also work full time as does he. I take out daughter to my mums every day. I bring her back every day. Make her bottles etc get her little clothes ironed and do her bag for the next day. You all know what needs doing.

If we have a row or even a disagreement he leaves for days. No calls or anything.

I am ashamed to admit ive thrown things at him as I feel hes pushed me to that limit by Staying out all night. Blanking me for days because I have snapped ay him when I am under pressure.

I threw some shoes at him a couple of weeks ago and he punched me in the head 4 times. I had hold of our 10 month old daughter. Hes spat at me. We were rowing and I threw the plug from the hoover at him. Not hard. Just in his general direction so he spat at me.

He said it was justified as it was self defence as I threw the shoes at him first.

Im not an angel. I think people have to allow someone some leniency sometimes with the snapping at each other. Its not right but both working full time and just everyday life, well it does happen doesnt it.

I let it go and he refuses to. He thinks hes justified to just leave us for a few days.

Hes now said he wants to split up and sell the house, get a divorce amd so on.

He refuses to acknowledge how his actions make me feel. He thinks all the change is down to me and none whatsoever to him.

Im just so lonely in my marriage.

[Mumyum1]

He punched you in the head four times. This guy is so out of control and out of touch with reality. My dear, so are you. No leniency for punching you in the head four times. I don't care if you threw a shoe at him. Give him his divorce, go to the police. Sell the house. You are already your daughters main care giver, the only thing he adds to your life is stress. Do the right thing by your daughter and don't let her grow up with a man who thinks he was ever justified to punch her mother four times in the head. She is going to go out and find a man just like him, to punch her in the head too, or worse. So if you don't want to do it for yourself, do it for her. I snap at DH, we have a 7mo. LB, and I'm still at home. I snap because he never helps with baby or house and I'm on duty 247. No one ever told me how stressed the relationship becomes after the baby but since I've been speaking about it many people tell me it's 'normal'. Especially if DH doesn't help out. So don't blame yourself or make excuses for him. He clearly wants out. So do yourself and DD the biggest favour of your lives and oblige him. What an arsehole. And if you feel lonely, know in your heart that this too shall pass.

[MorrisZapp]

He was right to leave, sorry. You don't have a relationship worth saving. This man is violent and does nothing to pull his weight anyway. Honestly, you will be so much happier without him once the painful breakup part is over.