Hello everyone,
I am new here and very much in need of some help and advice, and would be so grateful if anyone can offer me some. I’m 21 years old and 4 months pregnant with my first child. My partner of 3 years as unfaithful to me and then left me. I know that I am relatively young, on a modest income as an administrator and now feel like a stupid little girl. My now former partner has moved back in with his mother, over 100mmiles away and says he wants to be involved but living that far away I doubt he will be able to play a huge part in our baby’s life. I think the easiest way to sum up my worries would be in a list, so here goes:
1)I am mostly afraid of being able to give my child and adequate up brining, both financially and emotionally on my own.
2)I am scared of not being able to go back to work and of being able to afford raising a child alone
3)I am white and the baby’s father is black and I do not want my child to feel like an outsider with my family (his want nothing to do with either of us)
4)Coming from a chaotic family myself the one thing I wanted for my own children was to live in a family with both their parents and now that this is impossible I am scared of my child missing out.
5)Although it is selfish I am scared of not finding a partner again – I am not a good looking woman and I will soon be a single mother.
6)I am struggling with feelings of guilt because I feel I have already let my child down and been a bad mother.
I would really appreciate any advice.
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92littlecat92 · 20/05/2014 13:22
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