Depression/ mid life crisis

[Compo1]

Hi I posted on here a couple of weeks ago regarding my wife ending out marriage, I didn't see it coming at all there is no-one else involved on either side I'm 100% certain of that.
My wife lost her mum a couple of years ago she was an alcoholic she has only been to her grave on the day of the funeral she refuses to go back saying I've done all my greiving.
At first she was dead against any kind of Councilling although yesterday she said that she was going to go for some for herself not to help us with our marriage.
Her only reasons for ending our marriage is the sparks gone she's not on love with me and she doesn't think I'm in love with her I've told her I'm madly in love with her but maybe I didn't show it enough.
We are now three weeks into our split we have already spoke about the house and the DC's.
I thought this at the start and still do she could be suffering from mild depression or a mid life crisis? Anyone else been through a similar situation and what we the outcome.
Thanks.

[Compo1]

I forgot to say she has only wore her engagement ring for a number years due to wedding ring being to small but she is still wearing it on her ring finger, I noticed when I went to see the children that my bedside cabinet has had my items removed and put somewhere else? I know these might be little things but in my current emotional state everything seems a big deal.

[Hup]

My DH told me the same five months ago and mob
Veda out 5 weeks ago. I am heartbroken, things got really horrible and I see no end to it.

My advice? Let her go and if it is meant to be she will come back. I became a person I was not proud of, begging him to stay, crying etc and it is that which he claims pushed him away