Feeling Guilty

[jellycake]

I'm a long time lurker, occasional poster.
My exdp and I have been split for 9 years and during that time he been a fairly flaky factor in ds life. ExDP has had multiple relationships and not been any kind of role model. In Sept, he split with the latest in a long string of women and totally disappeared. I had no address, no phone numbers and the only way of contacting him was through FB messaging. (I also had no maintenance). I knew he was alive because I could see his FB activity. Xmas came and went and ds had nothing from his father, not even a card.
When I got home from work tonight, there was a debt collection letter for him at my address (I have dealt with a few of these of the years) so that made my fucking furious. Then after 5 months of silence, at 8 o'clock there was a knock on the door and it was him! He walked into my house like he owned the place and said 'alright?'
I threw the letter at him and told him (ever so politely - obviously) that it wasn't alright and he shrugged. He asked where Ds was and went to go upstairs to see him at which point I told him that he couldn't act like the last 5 months hadn't happened and he couldn't walk around my house like he lived there! He chucked a massive strop and stormed out.
Now I don't regret saying any of that but I worry that this may be the final nail in the coffin and that ds may not have contact with his father again. I told ds (he's 14) and he didn't seem to bothered but it is very difficult to tell with him. He's still his father albeit a shit one...

[TroLoLo]

To be honest it sounds like your ds would be better off without him. He sounds like a proper arsehole.