how did you deal with the new GIRLFRIEND.

[WorkingSingleMum]

Where you judgemental, polite, nasty etc...?

How long before the new girlfriend met your children?

[Lonecatwithkitten]

She was the OW. She not only meet DD, but had a sleep over after 3 days.
I barely acknowledge she exists when I do I am polite.
ExH will have to deal with the backlash when it will happen.

[WorkingSingleMum]

OW?

[Lonecatwithkitten]

Other woman -OW.

[sandiy]

I'm sure it's petty and childish and I'm not proud of it but it works for me.
I blank her completely.No eye contact no nothing.Im fairly sure she was the other woman.Im ninty percent certain she has been in my house while I have been at work possibly shagging ex.She has screamed abuse at me down the phone.I think she tries to annoy me There is no need for her to be at drop offs I'm certainly not even going to say hello However as much as I dislike her I don t bad mouth her to my children as she and ex have baby together therefore in some way she will always be part of their lives.
But she and ex are having a few relationship problems which is impacting on my children when they visit so things may very well change.I don t mind taking her crap I'm an adult but my children are very traumatised following her last episode so I may need to speak with her but,really would rather not.I recite this when I'm stressed by her."Iam clothed in dignity"it somehow helps.

[WorkingSingleMum]

Sandly sounds like you have reason forpretending like and doesn't exist. Better woman though if you can bite your tongue for the sake of your children. kudos.

my ex has a new partner of a month. she already lives with him. the other day be came to meet me and bub at the park and told me how he will alwayse love me and the other woman will never be the same.
Just proof he's deceitful now I just feel sorry for her

[professorgrommit]

Have a look at the posts in lone parents on managing the ex relationship as good insights there.
And put your kids first.
Always.

[fackinell]

I am one of the GIRLFRIENDS and just want to comment on how I am treated, to put another angle on things. Been together two years and six years after DP's ex left him for another man. He was single after the split until me.

I have no idea why, but ExW has been verbally nasty about me, blanked me when I've been polite to her in the street and had a fair amount of verbal abuse from her other children (by other men.) I love my DSD and we now have a good relationship after a turbulent first year. It was important to me to be as welcoming as possible to my DSDs family but its just not going to work out like that. DSD is now the only one I care about having a good relationship with, due to them not wanting a bar of me,

I still ask DSD how her mum is, she's had a lot of problems lately with family bereavement etc. I'm honestly not being nosy, just showing DSD that I want to acknowledge her other side of her family and give my condolences etc.

I guess it depends on the circumstances of the split but if GF is not the OW and they got together after the split then please be kind to us. We are people too!! And the majority of us do want to do our best by any children involved.

[sandiy]

Having given it a bit more thought :- Look good I don t mean false eye lashes and push up bras I mean take a pride in yourself.Respect the image you portray.Even if you are in bits do your hair keep your roots under control clean well fitting outfit.Just look sorted God knows what ex has said about you Probobly that you are fat and saggy with no redeeming features so it's nice to burst that little bubble.I have just found out that ow is intimidated by my composure and terrified ex is going to run back (I would nt have him if he shat diamonds) Sometimes its the littlest things that help when you are at your lowest.I also recommend big sun glasses to hide your eyes mine are a dead give away of how I'm feeling.

[WorkingSingleMum]

Sandly that sunglasses idea is useful!! I'm defiantly implementing that one!!