I am posting this on behalf of a friend, who is desperate for some advice from knowledgeable MNetters, but struggling a bit too much to ask!
In October last year she left the marital home (his family farm) after 7 years of marriage. They have one child - a very intelligent confident little girl who, at nearly 6, seems to have taken the chance in circumstance extraordinarily well so far.
Up to this point, the arrangements regarding the child have been very flexible, with her staying at whichever house seems the most appropriate at the time. This has probably worked out at roughly 50%, with her spending perhaps slightly more time with her mother.
Her mother is now considering next term, and wondering what approach would be best for the child. Is it better to have a fixed pattern, and if so, are longer stays with each parent (e.g. 4/5 days) better than single nights here and there? My friend is obviously very reluctant to go long stretches without seeing her daughter, but if less changing around is better for the child, of course she will do whatever is right.
Obviously none of this has been put to the ex-husband yet, but she just wanted to find out from other people what arrangements have been most satisfactory from the children's perspective?
Thanks!
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oxcat1 · 01/08/2013 19:11
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