My ex and I had been negotiating contact largely through solicitor. He has sent a letter recently stating that he has been living with OW since Feb last year (and naming her). As we separated in Jan and he is presenting this as a long term committed relationship, has he effectively admitted adultery given that we are still married? Or does he have to admit to sleeping with her before I moved out for it to count?
I can't face the stress and conflict of divorce but I know I have to get on with it, for my own sake now. The pair of them are spending time with our children now (2 and just 6mo, I was pregnant when they moved in together) and it kills me. I don't know whether I can cite adultery and just get it dealt with swiflty using this letter of his as proof. Or do I have to go through listing his unreasonable behaviour and all the potential drama that would create?
In some ways I'd love to highlight what an abusive arsehole he was by listing the UB. But my solicitor is ridiculously keen to be conciliatory, to the extent that she won't allow me to say anything that she thinks will inflame him, such as telling the truth.
I feel fed up and down tonight. I wish I could just get out of this without having to spend the £1000 at least that it will cost me or talk to the prat STBXH.
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chocoreturns · 11/01/2013 20:22
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