Hi all,
My husband told me 6 weeks go that he didnt love me anymore and wanted to separate. He flatly denied that any one else was involved so I intended to allow him to issue proceedings against me, with him meeting the costs.
However in true cliche style i discovered a receipt for flowers and the other girl story emerged. I dont know what happened when but the deed has certainly be done with her since our separation.
So without knowing all the lurid details, should I petition him for adultery or still wait for him to petition me for unreasonable behaviour? Ive got my pride and without doubt his actions have caused this breakdown, but will who petitions who be relevant?
By way of background info, we have 2 small children and I'm going to try and stay in our marital home. We dont appear to be fighting over anything. He's pretty much giving me everything and the option to try and get him off the mortgage/ownership if possible. He knows what maintenance he has to pay and we've agreed that an equity transfer is better for us both than crippling monthly spousal maintenance and me having to sell.
So if anyone has any experience on the advantages and disadvantages of issuing proceedings, I'd be really pleased to hear ur thoughts.
Thanks,
JG.
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Should I petition him or let him petition me?
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JuliaGulia · 22/12/2012 22:11
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