I'm very confused....would love to chat for hours about my, and all of your, situations, but probably seeing as i am after some advice I should just be to the point....
Been married for 19 years. 2 kids at secondary school. I've been a sahm since i was pregnant with the eldest (14 yrs). I'm the one not happy, not OH, and he is quite upset about it all. (as am I). What are my rights? He is telling me not to assume i would 'get' the kids. I have stayed at home with them for 14 years. He works long hours (leaves 6.30am-8.30pm), is a professional, with a good salary. We own our house, and various other investments/pensions.
He won't move out for a separation as he doesn't want to separate. I'm ok with that for the moment, but have no idea what i should expect for the future - is he expected to continue paying school fees for the kids? Is everything split 50/50? Do I have to get a job? Does he have to continue to support me? (I assume he must support the kids?).
He has said he will stop his job and work locally in order to have the kids stay with him. Can he really do this after working long hours all this time....and 'take them from under my nose'? He is trying to win favour with them all the time at the moment....treats....stay up late....etc...I believe that at around 12yo they have a say in where they live??
Not that any of this is a reason to stay, or split, but I just would like to know what I should expect and am entitled to.
Our bank account is joint, but I have no idea how to access it, because he usually just gives me money when i ask!
Thank you so much for any help/advice you can give
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confusedsahm · 03/09/2012 16:17
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