Hi, I've already posted this in legal but had no responses yet. Not really sure where is the right place.
My friend, lets call her Betty, has been told (and is complying) by SS to give access of her young dcs to her ex. I was always under the impression that access is something which is ordered by the courts not SS. Can anyone tell me if this is correct?
Betty is very young and ex has a criminal record for domestic abuse against her and is also a regular drug user. SS visited Betty and told her to let him see his children supervised (he has a family member there) as they felt he was a good hardworking man
Betty thought that because they were telling her to do this she had to comply as otherwise they would take her children away from her She doesn't feel that it is in the best interests of her children because he is still being violent (not towards her recently) and also still does drugs.
SS say that he is going to counselling so it will all be fine.
She's been for a couple of meetings with SS and in the second meeting the SW she previously saw denied some things that she had said. Betty was positive that SW was saying one thing when it was just the 2 of them but denying it in the meeting when others were present. It's all sounding rather dodgy.
Betty as I said is young and is doing as she is told because she doesn't think she has any choice, but she is scared and worried about her children. It seems that SS think they can tell her what to do because of her age and I get the impression that ex (as a typical abusive man can) has charmed them.
Can anyone help? I've suggested that she get legal advice before SS next visit and have someone else present in the meeting.
She's a really great mum, no problems there. They only got in touch with her because ex committed another violent act apparently, even though she hadn't seen him and he hadn't seen his children for at least a year.
I hope someone can help. Thanks
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SS ordering access. One scared mum! Domestic abuse. Please help!
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PooPooOnMars · 13/08/2012 20:24
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