I'm desperate, a Father that has spent the last 6 years fighting to help my 2 children from a previous marriage B(14 years old) and G(11 years old). last month I finally won a court order giving my children the stability they needed living with me, my partner (of 6 years) and my 18 month old son.
Unfortunately over the last 6 years my daughter has moved between my house and my ex-wife's 6 times, each time she has come to me it has been because of allegations of DV or neglect from her Mum.
Sadly my daughter has been suffering severe emotional issues which has been difficult for myself and my partner to deal with, this sadly caused my partner to have a breakdown and leave me recently.
She said she can't live with my daughter and unless she goes back to her Mum she will never come back even though she loves me and wants to be with me.
I am devastated, for so long I have dreamt of a family life and now my partner and my young baby boy have left I feel empty. On the other side I see my daughter needs me now more than ever, she has repeatedly said she will go and live with her Mum so I can have my family. I have repeatedly said no and tried to stay strong.
I can't describe the emotions I am feeling, I feel let down by my partner but also empathise with her, I feel so much love for my daughter but crave my 18 month old son so badly. My partner is refusing to let me have my son with my other kids yet only days ago before she had a breakdown it was fine. I feel so torn, like my partner has put a gun to my head and said "choose".
I can't sleep, am I doing the right thing? Should I just send my daughter to her Mum again and gain my son and partner? Although if my ex-wife were to do something even worse then my daughter could be in danger and I couldn't live with myself.
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Choose between my daughter or my partner and my young son?
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DK2016 · 04/01/2016 01:39
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