Worried about money already

[Beggy15]

Hi,

I am 7 weeks pregnant and cannot relax whether it's worry about having a miscarriage or money.

I am a medical student but suspended studies as I wouldn't be able to do my august exams, therefor I won't be getting a loan or bursary! (I'm 24 btw)

I wasn't Intending on getting pregnant as I was always told I don't even produce eggs so as you can imagine it was a huge shock. I am determined to be a good mum and provide whatever I can for my child if all goes well.

How do I fund my child? I don't have a part time job as most jobs I went to once the find out I'm a medic student it's a rejection. I am lucky to live at home and have amazing parents but I don't want to live off them.

Really concerned I won't be able to provide. This is the only place I can voice my concern because my pregnancy is a huge secret as I don't want to curse it!

[twomoreminutes]

Hi Beggy. Just wondering whether you've thought about approaching medical publishing companies or med comms agencies for work? I work in this area (freelance) and they always seem to be after med trainees to provide clinical input in one format or another. It's usually work that could be done at home and not necessarily full-time.

And I know relaxing is easier said than done (am 12 weeks pregnant myself with no. 3) but try not to get too stressed and look after yourself!

[Beggy15]

Thanks for the suggestions I will look Into it now!

I think my mind is working over time at the minute but I suppose every expectant mums mind does this? It's weird having free time and not stressing over jan exams!

[EssexMummy123]

Can you talk to someone at your UNI? your not the first student to get pregnant, i mean talk to welfare rather than your tutor/lecturer.

What about the father, how much will he contribute?

FA will cover basic nappies/milk.

[Millie2013]

How do your parents feel about supporting you? I know it's really tough being dependent, but it's only for a short time (honestly, mine were so excited to become grandparents, they would have done anything they could to help out
I'm off to google twomoreminutes suggestion too, thank you for sharing that

[Beggy15]

Due to the fact I've had to suspend I can't have any help off the Uni till I return.

My boyfriend who hasn't split up with me (been with him 6 years) is begging me for an abortion which I won't do so I doubt he will end up paying anything at all toward it even though he has a very good job!

My mum an dad don't mind my mums happy my dad will come around he was always proud of his little girl become a dr but that's been put on the back burner so I'll wait till he's more comfortable with it then see where he stands on helping me out a little. I suppose it's only early days for me an shouldn't get too tangled up in finance issues yet

[bantamgirl]

How about selling Avon or similar?

[IssyStark]

Your Students Union should still be able to help you with financial advice, even 'though you can't get any academic support, use most uni facilities etc.

Also, your boyfriend may want you to get an abortion now but if everything turns out well and you keep the baby and regardless of whether you are still together 9and I hope you are if your happy), he will have to support the child, it's his legal obligation.

[IssyStark]

Also, on another thread, someone else mentioned hourly tutoring as a way to get some money in when pregnant. Exam season is coming up and your sciences are probably rather good given you've got into Medical School so you may be able to get some work at GCSE or A-level.

[LizziTea]

I have been doing private tutoring, and as well as loving the job I also love how easy it is to find students and flexible work! Whereabouts do you live at the moment? I can happily give further advice about how to find students etc. if you think this is something you might be interested in.

[574ejones]

The university must have some kind of provision for deferral of your exams. All sorts of unexpected things happen to people and they can't sit them. Is this something you have investigated? I think if I was in your situation I would want to continue my studies for as long as possible as it will be even harder once you have had the baby.

I am so pleased that your parents are supportive.

[Currentlyclueless]

If you're a medic student you cannot continue with the course until you've had the baby. The exams are January May and august and you can't sit say the jan ones and not the other two and then come back the next year an do the other two. Also placement isn't really allowed which is a huge % of the overall course

[creambun2014]

Cant you just return really quickly and do the exams as normal?

[TwoAndTwoEqualsChaos]

I am honestly surprised that the University has no welfare obligation to you, because you've suspended not left.

[UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea]

The father has no choice as to whether he contributes or not

[cailindana]

Take a breath. You will be fine, everything will be ok.

You are in a great position - having a baby you never thought you'd have, clearly intelligent and hardworking, supported by your parents.

It's a shame your boyfriend is being such a dick about it but that's not your focus for now, your focus is on looking after yourself, enjoying your pregnancy as much as you can and looking forward to your lovely baby.

It's ok to rely on your parents for a while. This is an exciting but daunting change in your life and you'll need to lean on someone.

It's ok to just put things on hold for a while, it's all there waiting for you when your baby is here and you're ready to go back.

Big congratulations on your pregnancy .

[Cabrinha]

You know you already want to do anything for this baby?

Just take a minute to remember that you're parents feel that about you.

I'd respect my daughter for wanting to work. But you know what? I'd say "don't be silly my little pickle, I love you. You enjoy pregnancy and having a baby. Take a break now because it's going to be hard work studying / working in hospital / being a mum. I'm looking after you now, emotionally and financially, because you're my baby".

Let your mum be the kind of mum you want to be! There's mosh and in loving and helping our kids. Congratulations, and good luck

[Cabrinha]

Mosh and?!

No shame. As in no shame accepting help!

[DarkNavyBlue]

The father doesn't get to choose weather or not he supports his choice. If he doesn't give you the money you can go through the CSA. Any contributions are on top of child tax credits.