Hi there everyone....have had a pretty rough ride on the conception and pregnancy train and would really like some advice or to speak with people who have experienced similar.
I'm a happily married 28 year old with an 18 month old daughter.Its been a long road achieving my daughter as we experienced a stillbirth at 33 weeks shortly after we were married in 2005,we had a little boy.In the sept of that year i had a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks(baby stopped at 6 weeks) and by then was really affected by what we had been through and decided to give it a rest for awhile!Then in july 2006 we got pregnant with our lovely and very wanted daughter who was born in march 2007.We'd decided to try for a brother or sister for her in july this year and fortunatly got pregnant straight away,but i started to bleed around 15 weeks and had a missed miscarriage again but this time at 16 weeks(baby stopped at 12 weeks).I initally dealt with it very well and when people say,'i'm so sorry',i simply said i'd been through worse,which i had losing our first son.
I now am looking for any possible answers as to why this has been happening to me,as i don't smoke/drink,have never taken any drugs and am a fit and healthy person.It just doesn't feel fair!They are doing tests on the baby that we lost and i have an appointment at the beginning of november to speak with my consultant at the hospital.
I have also started to think back to when i was a teenager and the fact that i'd got pregnant at a very young age and had an abortion,i had then gone into another relationship which was violent and got pregnant again and decided to have another abortion(i must sound lovely!!..i really am honestly!)
I had never mentioned to any doctors about my abortions after that as it had been traumatic both times and i simply wanted to forget that time of my life(my mum had passed away around then too)But now i'm wondering if there is possibly a link to the miscarriages and that ultimatly i'm the one that has caused these pregnancies to go wrong!
I'm so sorry for being abit morbid,but i had to get it off my chest,and lay everything doen,so that hopefully people in similar circumstances can empathise with me or give me some advice!
I'd so much love a brother or sister for my daughter and would have never thought that getting pregnant or 'keeping' a pregnancy would be this hard!..It seems like everyone around me has perfect pregnancies and go on to have lots of children without any heartache inbetween,and i am soo grateful for my beautiful daughter and tell her how much i love her everyday!But i just don't understand if i can have such a 'text book' pregnancy with her(no probs all the way through and born at 40 weeks)why i can then not keep a pregnancy!
I've also heard about issues such as women not being able to carry a certain sex?and that got me thinking as i has a stillborn son,does that mean that possibly the missede miscarriages were boys too!??My head id just full of questions!!
So please if anyone has any advice or experiences of similar,please let me know,i'd really appreciate it.x.x.x.x..x
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need advice/similar experiences please!!Am scared that i've effected my future fertility!:(
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wannabump2008 · 08/10/2008 14:51
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