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Whats the longest cycles you had, need help to keep me sane!!!!

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alfiemama · 09/09/2008 09:33

Hi everyone

Really need help to keep sane

We have been ttc for 2 months now and I was on the pill origionally, came of pill had bleed straight away, last month had a normal period at 32 cd.

This month on cd38 and nothing yet. I had period pains really bad 1 Sep (I know this as I was at a christening and even went to shop for some towels in case) sorry if tmi.
Now I have nothing apart from feeling sick all the time and a very keen sense of smell (Im almost sure Im not sympton spotting)

I have done cheapy test but negative,how long should you leave it and can people really get false negs for months (as I have seen on the net).

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Bumpsadaisie · 09/09/2008 11:52

Alfie

Everyone's different but my experience at least is that it can take a long time to get back to normal after coming off the pill.

I came off Microgynon about a year ago, for the first 6 months it was all over the place with v long cycles and sometimes more normal, then it started to settle down in the second six months, with my cycles being something like 40, 38, 34, 34, 32 and 29 days (most recent last!) I think it is now settling down into pre-pill pattern (hope so as we're in month 1 of TTC!)

You could be pregnant (hope so!) but there again, it could just be your hormones all over the place and making you feel these symptoms.

The problem is that you probably don't know whether you've definitely already ovulated this cycle. If you don't know whether you ovulated, you don't actually know whether your period is "late" or not. You usually get your period about 10 - 14 days after ovulation, so in theory it could be that you perhaps haven't ovulated yet, or perhaps only ovulated 5 days ago, for example. So even though you think your period is well overdue, it actually isn't, and it is too early to test. Have you been having intercourse very regularly throughout the 38 days, so that in theory you could be pregnant even if you ovulated much later than expected?

If you did ovulate at the "normal" time and you really are several days "late", then it's unlikely that you are pregnant I would have thought, because tests pick it up at this stage?

Perhaps best to hang on for a few more days and try again or ask the doctor to do a blood pregnancy test.

If you don't already, you might want to use Fertility Friend (google it) to actually chart what is going on with your cycle as it starts to return to normal. Then, at least, you'll know when you ovulate. I didn't use Fertility Friend till recently, but I know if I had used it as soon as I came off the pill, it would have shown great variations in when I ovulated each month, as things got back to normal.

If your ovulation date is erratic until things get back to normal then the best way to get pregnant must be to do the deed every 2 (or three) days throughout the cycle - then you'll be in with a chance whenever you ovulate!

HTH
Bumpsx

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funtimewincies · 09/09/2008 12:19

One 'normal' period after coming off Logynon and then a 68 day cycle! I was climbing the walls and, as we were TTC at the time, I went through shedloads of pregnancy tests .

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alfiemama · 09/09/2008 13:35

Hi Bumpsadaisy, yes been bd nearly every night (thats why Im knackered lol), I wouldnt have thought anything of it but for the sickness if this is the hormones after coming of pills think Im gonna need something to stop the sickness feeling.

I really didnt want to start charting as with first little one I tried for 5 years (and did everything in the book to get preggers enventually worked on clomid , dont want to go down that route as dont think could handle it mentally again) second little one was first month au naturalle

Funtimewinces, 68 days jeees I cannot even imagine how you must have been feeling, bet you could have taken shares out lol.

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FruitynNutty · 09/09/2008 13:42

It shouldn't take a long time for your cycle to get back to normal after the pill. it leaves your system almost immediately. I don't want to scare you but the pill can disguise symptoms of PCOS which causes long drawn out cycles.
I discovered I had this after having 100 day plus cycles. Sometimes they were 40 days or 60 days too. All over the place.

If your AF doesn't arrive within a week I'd book an appointment with your GP. He/she may just say it's hormones settling but if you have any other symptoms of PCOS then I would ask to be scanned.

Just to let you know, it only took me just under a year to conceive this time around which is about average for a normal healthy couple.
Good luck, I hope AF turns up smartish! Or you get a lovely line on an HPT

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alfiemama · 09/09/2008 13:57

Hi FruitynNutty

thanks I thought this was the case with the pill as some get preggers straight away but thought I would check, just dont understand the sickness feeling. I feel the need to eat all the time (which is how I felt last time) but yet dont fancy my brekkie, oh well must be hormones.

my periods were always 32 days pre pill days on the pill 28 days clock work and last month 32 days, very strange. It just bugs you not knowing doesnt it.

Has your pcos sorted itself out then?

My friend had pcos and tried IVF 8 times, just went to her christening of twin boys after 9 years of trying.

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Bumpsadaisie · 09/09/2008 14:19

Looked on NHS Direct which gives this guidance i.e. you should give yourself 6 months to get back to having regular periods.

As FruitynNutty says, prob best to talk to the doctor though.

Bumps x

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alfiemama · 09/09/2008 16:12

Hi Bumps

Ah that was very nice of you finding that for me.

Im sure it is just delayed due to the pill messing me up, its just the sickness really that is bothering me, actually feel like I am gonna throw up. Must just be hormones in a bit of a tizz aswell.

Think will wait till cd40 (2 days time) and ring the drs

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bootsmonkey · 09/09/2008 16:28

I had a random 54 day cycle once, which freaked me out. Would go see docs if you are concerned. I had a smear booked and mentioned it then and the doc said it was just one of those things...

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ahfeckit · 09/09/2008 19:11

I can remember having a 50 day cycle earlier this year and thought i was preggers, but no, it was just a bit of a long cycle (very random) usually varies from 28-32 day cycles.and that's without hormonal contaception!!

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alfiemama · 09/09/2008 22:26

Isnt it bonkers, drives you insane if you let it?

Just gonna try and relax about it now if it comes it comes (who am I kidding)

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FruitynNutty · 10/09/2008 08:19

Hi Alfie,
Unfortunately PCOS will never sort itself out. It's something which has always been there and always will be (unless they find a cure), it usually shows itself during puberty athough your can have no symptoms at all.
I was just very lucky to be able to conceive twice (albeit with what seemed like a lot of effort!)

I would get myself checked if I were you after a few days if you don't get a positive preg test. Don't let the GP fob you off either, you need to out your mind at rest

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FruitynNutty · 10/09/2008 08:19

Put not "out"

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alfiemama · 10/09/2008 09:45

Thanks FruitynNutty

Still nothing on the af front and not going to test again until tommorow, so if neg again will book in at the Drs

thanks for the advice, didnt really no too much about it

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arionater · 10/09/2008 19:05

I've read somewhere that you may actually be more likely to conceive immediately after coming off the pill (some sort of rebound effect) - though it's also definitely true that you can have wonky cycles for quite a while before they sort themselves out. (Never been on the pill myself buy my best friend who's TTC is a doctor and had been on hormonal bc for years so looked it all up!) I chart my cycles and I have normal variation - normal for me! - anywhere between about 28 and 40 days, my ovulation just shifts around all over the place.

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