Nearly 2 years trying to get pregnant

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NerdMammy92 Mon 21-Nov-16 22:11:49

I'm a 24 year old mother to one little girl. She is 4 and absolutely perfect. We decided to start trying for another. Next month {December} with be 20 months trying. I don't want to sound stereotypical or anything, but it's getting me so down.

I used to enjoy sex with my OH but now I just see it as a task because everytime is a negative outcome. I know they say just forget you're trying for a baby, and it will happen. But it's not. I've been taking vitamins. I keep 2 ovulation calenders and obviously have sex regularly on the right days {and some others too}

I feel so depressed and maybe a doctor is the right answer, but I feel like I should be pregnant by now. I'm only 24.

I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy, and when we started to try again, I fell pregnant with my daughter within a year of trying.

I can't help but think something is wrong but I'm too scared to look into it!

Phoenix76 Mon 21-Nov-16 23:02:45

Hello Nerdmammy! I used to think getting pregnant was such an easy thing to do, how wrong I was! I'm so sorry you're going through this, I've just posted on another thread and I found you too! The right thing for me to say is have a little chat to your gp because if there is something preventing conception it may take a minor adjust to get you in the right direction. If you really can't face all that yet you may want to try the following, I was pregnant within a month of trying this and I was just over a year ttc, I was 39 ttc2 and seriously panicking! I kept taking my folic acid, very important when ttc. After hours and hours researching on the net Ubiquinol QC10 kept coming up (Google Ubiquinol and fertitity). We dtd the deed every 2-3 days regardless of ov. Please don't be scared of getting help though, if there is a problem, and there may well not be, you can get help. I'm not surprised you're feeling depressed it's one of the most stressful things when it doesn't happen within a certain time, take good care of yourself, and don't lose heart x

DizzyNorthernBird Tue 22-Nov-16 08:51:16

nerd I was in your shoes until recently. I'm a lot older than you but we'd been trying for a year before I went to GP. I insisted something wasn't right as my cycles were irregular. I had a scan and found I had pcos, but this shouldn't stop me from getting pg (I knew I was ovulated as I was bbt tracking). We were dtd at the right times, I was eating well and exercising, taking vitamins, but nothing was happening. I kept pushing my GP and got referred to gynae, who sent me for a hsg in September. I had this done and got my bfp that same cycle. It would have been 2 years ttc for us next month.

You've been trying for well over a year so your GP will do tests. Don't sit back and hope it will happen. If there's a problem, knowledge is power and they can help to sort things out. Ignore those people who tell you to 'stop trying/relax and it'll happen', this is bollocks. No amount of relaxing will get you a bfp if something is preventing it from happening! For me it was as simple as having a procedure to clear out my tubes! But it took 9 months to get this following that first visit to my GP. Don't put it off any longer, book an appointment xxx

kimnews Tue 22-Nov-16 09:30:19

My DH and I have been trying for our second for the same time as you have, and we also have a 4 year old.
We have had all the tests the NHS provides and they all came back clear, totally unexplained infertility. Our last appointment (last week) we were told there was nothing more the NHS would do as they won't fund any fertility treatments for us as we already have our son. Fair enough but it felt like the six months of tests were a waste as now if we go private we will have to pay to have those tests all over again.
Totally at the end of our tether and feel like it's never going to happen, I don't even feel hopeful in the TWW any more.

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