A little advice? We are starting TTC from tomorrow and as a ridiculously organised person I've spent weeks researching cycles, ovulation, ways to be healthier and ensure body is prepared. This is the way I deal with stuff, so that I feel prepared and able to cope - especially with something so huge and basically uncontrollable.
My husband and my family are all telling me to chill out. That I'm doing too much and shouldn't be thinking about this stuff yet. That i should just see what happens and have fun.
I understand stress and worry will only make it more difficult. But going into something, anything blind really stresses me out. For example when we go on holiday I plan it down to having a list of possible restaurants and snack places appropriate to the activities each day. I suppose you could call me a control freak lol but I just feel better, more relaxed when I have a plan or at least understand what I'm doing.
I don't necessarily mean I'm going to insist on doing OPK and HPK from tomorrow and only DTD on ovulation days etc etc but I feel better now that I understand how the basics work. Also all the women in my family get pregnant just by looking at a man and I'm worried that if I don't get pregnant quick I'll freak out. This way at least I can work through it logically and hopefully help me cope.
Is anyone else in the same boat? Am I being ridiculous?
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BusyNothings · 30/05/2016 23:35
I think it's fair enough. So many people just say relax blah blah, but if you're not that kind of person then that's absolutely rubbish 'advice'. Do whatever makes you feel better about the whole process. But bare in mind that it might take a long time and ultimately it's out of your control so you might have to reassess your strategy for coping with the highs and lows of TTC at some point. But that's the case for every approach.
Good luck 
Ha ha I am exactly like you in the control freak kind of way. My partner thought I approached it too scientifically but I really needed to know what was happening. The first month we just tried without any additional help and good old AF arrived as usual so the second month I did it all, temps and ovulation tests etc.
Firstly I wanted to make sure I was def ovulating cos didn't want to go through the stress of the two week wait if nothing could have happened and secondly I wanted to know exactly when I ovulated. Turned out the first month I was probably way out with my prediction of ovulation so we DTD on the wrong days. Second month I got two days with a lovely clear with clear blue and an associated temp dip and then rise. We DTD on the evening of the first and the morning of the second which is when I had the temp dip and I'm now 5+6 weeks. I've no idea if we would have ended up here if I hadn't done all the other bits along side but I just felt so much more in control when I knew what was happening.
At the end of the day I think you have to do what works for you. It does take over your life if you aren't careful but if you feel happier and less stressed doing it this way then I don't think that is a bad thing.
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