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1st IVF cycle failed

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moongirl123 · 14/01/2016 12:31

I am feeling quite heartbroken today. Got a phone call from the clinic that my first IVF cycle had failed. 5 eggs collected, DH has low sperm count/poor quality, none of the egg was fertilized. Any ladies here have similar experience? Any advise what to do for the second try? I just feel so helpless.

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AnnaMarlowe · 14/01/2016 12:35

I'm so sorry Moon.

I know just how you feel.

In our case, we took some time to focus on making a plan B for our lives, just in case it never worked.

Fortunately for us we were successful second time out and have our wonderful twins as a result.

Take care of yourself.

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loopylou1984 · 14/01/2016 12:38

Hi moongirl, I'm so sorry to hear that your cycle failed.
I don't really have any advice, but wanted to say I understand.
I had my first transfer (frozen as had to abandon fresh after EC due to OHSS) in November which ended with af before I even got to test day.

So do you have 4 left in the freezer?

I think if there were no obvious issues (poor lining quality/embryo quality etc) then most likely they will just try again when you are ready.

I hope you're being looked after, and I promise you the fog will lift and you will be okay. Let yourself grieve what could have been, it's totally normal. X

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loopylou1984 · 14/01/2016 12:40

Sorry moon, just re-read that nothing fertilised. Same advice stands.
I suspect they will suggest trying again. Did you have icsi? Or just standard IVF? Xx

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moongirl123 · 14/01/2016 12:40

Thanks for your kind words, Anna. I am very happy for you that your second attempt worked out :)

I agree DH and I need to talk about Plan B as difficult as it is.

What an emotional roller coaster this has been. I didn't know how badly this would affect me until I got the call.

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moongirl123 · 14/01/2016 12:42

Thanks sammy, we had ICSI so thought our chances was good. I think we will definitely try again. I just need to get through today..

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AnnaMarlowe · 14/01/2016 13:40

Moon I know that you are heartbroken but you will get through today. And tomorrow.

Our Plan B thinking was part of creating a positive alternative vision for our lives. We love each other so much and didn't want to let anything damage that.

We didn't give up planning for and hoping for the next round of ICSI, we just opened a few other doors.

Google 'More to Life infertility' and you'll find some interesting resources.

This isn't the end of the world (though I know it feels that way) it's just another step in your journey.

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moongirl123 · 14/01/2016 20:25

Cheers, Anna. It's nice to hear words of support from people who have been through it as well. I am looking into More to Life right now.

xxxx

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Osirus · 14/01/2016 22:39

I was going to suggest ICSI, as we had to go down that route in September due to poor sperm sample on the day. The clinic didn't want to risk the eggs not fertilising at all. We found that decision hard to make but it worked for us so I was glad we went down that route. Out of 8 eggs, we had 5 fertilise but the quality wasn't the best and had 2 transferred.

This is your first cycle? It can take an average of three attempts to work. Do the clinic know or have an idea why fertilisation was not achieved? It may be something they can do differently next cycle. Sperm samples differ all the time - next time the result might be much better. We were surprised that my DP's sample was so poor we needed ICSI, when we had previously been told we wouldn't need it.

Don't forget that different clinics have different approaches. It might be something to look into later on.

Best wishes and I hope you achieve your dream.