Too old to conceive at 43??

(18 Posts)
Startliteangel Tue 30-Apr-13 11:36:42

Hi...dh and I would like to try for another baby ...i think im too old ...have one dd age 12 but had several miscarriages before and after we had her...most people would think I'm mad wanting too try again but I feel as if motherhood wasn't forfilled for me ..I had endometriosis which was treated in my 20s.. But it left me with scarred tubes ..I was last pregnant aged 39 ..docs never found any cause for the miscarriages ..i was told it was just one of these things ..

ThisIsYourSong Tue 30-Apr-13 12:08:28

Can you get some fertility tests done through your GP or privately if you have the money? It should give you an indication of whether you are still producing eggs although these are not the be all and end all.

It sounds like you would regret not trying again although those miscarriages must have been heartbreaking. There may have been advances over the past few years though that could help. Have you ever tried taking progesterone on a natural cycle?

Good luck whatever you decide xx

Startliteangel Tue 30-Apr-13 12:17:03

The only medication I have ever been on was prostap injections for the endometriosis in my mid 20s...I could ask my doc to check if I'm ovulating etc..just don't want to go down the road of being totally devastated every time my period comes...which has been the case many many times..also noticed a change in my monthly cycle ..used to have my period for 6/7 days cycle was 28 days ...last few months its been every 25/26 days lasting for about 2 days ..I don't know if that's the start of the menopause ..I'm hoping I've not left things too late ..

greenlizard Tue 30-Apr-13 12:26:10

Hi

My DP and I (both 43) have been TTC for 9 months. Tests revealed that I am ovulating every month but only have one functioning ovary and I have very low ovarian reserve. DPs sperm wasn't tip top but ok. I have never been pregnant before and last week I got my BFP grin.

My point is - if you want another child, go for it, it is possible! There is a fabulous forties thread for women who are trying which is very supportive and offers great advice.

Startliteangel Tue 30-Apr-13 12:30:15

Thanks for the words of support greenlizard..and congratulations ..all the very best x

ZolaBuddleia Tue 30-Apr-13 13:30:55

I'm 42 and TTC too. Actually I'm 42 and a half, so that's nearly 43. grin

Ledkr Tue 30-Apr-13 13:32:34

I had dd at 43 also a 9 yr age gap from dd1 took a while but she's here

zumm Tue 30-Apr-13 13:53:58

Star - how hard re medical history. It's not too late. Wishing you heartfelt best of luck x

Startliteangel Tue 30-Apr-13 14:07:19

Thanks everyone for the words of support ...we will try and see what happens ...give it our best shot ..

MrsDeVere Tue 30-Apr-13 14:21:34

I was 42 when I conceived DC5
very quickly shock

Good luck!

ThisIsYourSong Tue 30-Apr-13 14:59:51

Congrats Greenlizard

FWIW my Mum was 40 when I was born. They had tried when they were younger, had the few tests available and adopted two children. Mum had had miscarriages. Then... surprise

Startliteangel Tue 30-Apr-13 18:19:24

Hopefully in a few months I can start another thread ..with some great news in the title ..best wishes to everyone xx

zumm Wed 01-May-13 09:26:42

starlite - make it May! And we'll both be on it, right smile

PS my grandmother (pre the pill) had her last at 45 - although there was a gap of almost 5 years after her second from last - who was born when she was 40 (previously babies had been coming at an average of about 18 months - acc to my Dad who is a maths prof, hahah). So there. But here we are, or at least here I am, post pill, getting anxious that we have to wait... though obvs, Star, we're only going to be waiting a couple more weeks smile

Lulu5000 Wed 01-May-13 10:27:38

Hi Greenlizard I can't see the thread can you help plz. I beat you all Im 44 and hubi 36, we're newly married with kids... I think its cute he wants one from me but help 9 months and a slow motion life after AGAIN ...LOL! plz MUMS throw your comments in.

Startliteangel Wed 01-May-13 13:20:26

Hopefully zumm we both get a BFP soon ...I'm equally excited as I went to see a claryovant who told me lots of things that where true and also informed me that I was going too have another baby ..now Im not a believer ..I only went to support a friend to offer her support ...and she kept staring at me saying I have a strong connection with YOUUUU smile

zumm Wed 01-May-13 14:53:55

Haha Start, a transgender psychic I met through work, don't ask, informed ME I would have a baby daughter. Ooer. How's that for double weird. Not that I'm a believer either. But you've just reminded me. RIght. How long before you post your news then? 23 of May for me... ;)

Startliteangel Wed 01-May-13 15:06:12

Same time for me zumm...fingers crossed for both of us smile

zumm Sat 04-May-13 20:41:03

Ooooh - interesting! Keep me posted till then smile

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