Absent AF, screwed up ovulation, luteal phase defects? Sign in for the all new ttc while breastfeeding thread! BFPs guaranteed!

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MrsHuxtable Wed 20-Feb-13 23:28:46

As if ttc wasn't nerve wrecking enough, we like the extra challenge of getting that BFP while still breastfeeding a baby or toddler. While this isn't an easy endouvour, it certainly isn't impossible as many graduates on the previous threads prove.

I'm posting a link here for any newcomers about fertility while breastfeeding.

kellymom.com/bf/normal/fertility/

Am also wonderig if you'd like to have some sort of stats for the tread members. I'll just start myself.

MrsHuxtable, 29, ttc#2 from April, on pp cycle 4, luteal phase defect

TheThickPlottens Tue 19-Mar-13 10:44:10

WooHoo for you Sock. How very exciting. So that's 20 tests. And I thought I was being cautious buying 6 on the weekend.

My faint line is 14 months old now.
Congrats!

IneedAsockamnesty Tue 19-Mar-13 10:46:36

I've got loads left if anyone want me to post them to you.somehow I reckon I can stop peeing on things now.

Jakeyblueblue Tue 19-Mar-13 12:48:10

Official Congrats sock! And hurray for the 20 tests.

Excuse my language but total f******g disaster my end. Spotting today at 9dpo. Didn't even make 10. So pissed with this right now. sad

snoozed Tue 19-Mar-13 18:56:55

Congratulations Sock, that's very encouraging!

Jakey.. Sorry this month hasn't been a good one for you. Me neither. Soon be April though which will hopefully be better.

Lis999 Tue 19-Mar-13 19:59:46

Ugh I'm sorry Jakey. Is 9 a longer LP for you than last cycle?

IneedAsockamnesty Tue 19-Mar-13 20:09:34

I'm sorry jakey. But on the upside you can have much more sex.

Are you dtd just before ovulation as opposed to during?

Jakeyblueblue Tue 19-Mar-13 22:20:13

No 9 day LP is even shorter than usual! Hence the disaster! Usually 10 minimal. God knows what my ridiculous hormones are playing at this cycle.
Dtd the daily from about cd10 to after I am sure I've ovd, usually around day 21. Not sure i could have done anymore. So bloody frustrating.

IneedAsockamnesty Tue 19-Mar-13 22:21:48

Are you doing ovulation testing with tests and or temp ect?

Jakeyblueblue Wed 20-Mar-13 21:30:14

No neither, don't get enough unbroken sleep to temp. (Co sleeping) and have had loads of false positives with the opk's so quit them too. Know when I'm ovulating though as have ov pain and a pretty obvious cm pattern too. Fed up with it all!

AlexanderinaTheGreater Thu 21-Mar-13 20:21:07

Jakey that's rubbish. Here's hoping it's a one off dodgy cycle.

Apologies for asking a question and then disappearing - real life and an ill small person intervened. I've found my B6 from last time and it's 100mg tablets, so that's what I'm taking. Temps are all over the shop this month, which is probably partly disturbed sleep (although I can usually still get a clear pattern even with odd days being miles out) but may be my body playing up again. Still, we shag onwards.... Well, if we can find any energy. I do like it when temps work because then I know when to stop.

Congrats socks, it's good to know it can happen.

OK, nosy question (with no judgement at all implied, I really am just nosy), are you folks working/at home/on mat leave/anything else I've not thought of? I'm back at work full time after loving having a year off with the small person. It was the right decision for various reasons, but still feels like an endless juggling act. Anyone else feel like a circus performer?

Jakeyblueblue Thu 21-Mar-13 23:33:31

I work part time alexanderina. But I'm a Macmillan nurse specialist so it can be tough going. The peoblem is that you cant leave stuff til the next time you are in so i end up doing no end of work from home in my own time. used to stay late alot before ds was born but cant do that now. i know exactly how you feel about being a juggler! i regularly have to try and write my notes with ds hanging off the boob and try to eat my tea at the same time grin
Then on top of being a working mummy, we've got to find time to keep shagging! Wish we could just take a pill!
My lovely but very annoying pregnant friend, fell pregnant whilst bf, on the first attempt and with only having one tube, was trying to make me feel better about the whole thing and told me to be pleased about the bfn as it meant I could keep having lots of sex and that's the enjoyable bit!!! I doubt she would find it so enjoyable doing it every day for weeks coz ovulation is delayed and also in total silence so you don't wake the co sleeping milk monster!!! Grrrrrr!!

BettyStogs Fri 22-Mar-13 10:04:39

Congratulations sock!

Alexanderina, I work 4 days a week, and yes is a struggle to get everything done and then have the time or energy to dtd. I've had all this week off work, and DS is in nursery today so having a day to myself for the first time in 18 months or so. Been so long that I don't really know what to do with myself!

TheThickChickPlottens Fri 22-Mar-13 11:02:36

I'm a sahm or as a sham as my autocorrect tells me. I don't feel like a juggler but just that I get nothing done and no time off.

Haven't had a shag in over a week. Too tired when we get the dcs to bed.

Hope you had a fun day Betty.

FriggFRIGG Fri 22-Mar-13 11:05:46

I only work weekends,and spend the rest of the time looking after DS and getting DD to and from school (an hours round trip walking) DP is brilliant and does more than his share of housework...I don't know WTH I'd do if he didn't!
DP is a chef so works crazy hours some weeks,he also has IBS,so doesn't often feel like DTD (tmi?) as he's either knackerd or bloated or both...

I'm not feeling particularly optimistic today...

AlexanderinaTheGreater Fri 22-Mar-13 13:16:37

I hadn't thought through the logistics of shagging while cosleeping - I'm impressed you manage that at all Jakey! (We tend to cosleep the second half of the night if at all because I'm too lazy/knackered to get her back to sleep any other way). It would be lovely if lots of sex due to ttc was enjoyable all round, but sadly that seems to rarely be the case. Mind you, in our case if we weren't ttc we probably wouldn't bother at all we're that tired. Temp was up this morning so that might be it for this month.

ThickChick I'd have words with your autocorrect! I think it's the no time off thing that makes me glad I work some of the time - in future (and especially if we have number 2) I'd like to go part time, but I think having a bit of space from the small person is good for my sanity. I don't think there's any easy way of doing this motherhood thing, although I wouldn't change it for the world.

Lis999 Fri 22-Mar-13 20:53:38

I work part time (3 days a week) as a lawyer. It's a good schedule for me and I usually don't feel too stressed. I'm very lucky!!!

We are going to try having DH sleep with DD tonight (usually I cosleep with her) to see if we can night wean. She has slept straight through with no nursing a couple nights this week so we think she might be ready. Wish us luck!

Reb18 Sat 23-Mar-13 13:26:22

well a quick update from me,af finally arrived a week late but thankfully was just as short as before being pregnant and today is day 10 and ive just got a faint line on my cheapy opk so i think everything is ok at the moment! Just on my phone now so will catch up on the laptop later smile xx

AlexanderinaTheGreater Sun 24-Mar-13 13:50:28

How did it go Lis?

And glad all seems to be OK Reb.

My temps are all over the place still <sigh>. I should probably fish out the OPKs and see what's going on that way, but it's all just a bit much like effort. I thought I'd got the shagging well timed this month too, but it seems maybe not. Gah.

Lis999 Sun 24-Mar-13 21:53:59

We ended up not trying because she started teething like crazy and nursing like a maniac! Oh well!

polarbear78 Mon 25-Mar-13 18:06:28

hi ladies,

My dd is 2 next week and no sign of periods yet. I am a little older than some of you.

Is there anything I could take that might encourage ov and or periods?

thank you

TheThickChickPlottens Mon 25-Mar-13 18:24:13

Hello polar

Between dd1 and dd2, I took an iron supplement, floradix I think. And nightweaned at the same time. One or the other brought back ovulation.

AlexanderinaTheGreater Wed 27-Mar-13 09:00:17

Pesky teeth Lis - hope they come through quickly.

Hi polarbear. I have no advice I'm afraid (my periods came back when the small person was 11 months) but wanted to welcome you. It seems ridiculous to be wanting periods back when one of the great things about pregnancy and bf is not having them - if only our bodies would do what we want when we want.... (ie start ovulating just as we want to ttc and then conceive straight away. It's the lack of this happening that's ridiculous, rather than you wanting periods, in case that wasn't clear - I don't generally go round insulting people I've only just met!).

Actually I think I made all that a whole lot less clear - can you tell we didn't have a good night?!

AlexanderinaTheGreater Sat 30-Mar-13 19:46:45

Well, I thought this month was going to be a write-off cos my temps have been all over the place and I ran out of energy for shagging. Fertility friend has cruelly got my hopes up by declaring it can detect ovulation, and on the day after our last shag. So rather than resigning myself to it and awaiting my period, I now have a glimmer of (no doubt misplaced) hope and so can continue to go quietly mad as usual. Joy.

On the other hand I got cuddles with a 4-day old yesterday who is absolutely gorgeous. I can't remember what on earth to do with them at that size though.

HotCrossFRIGG Sat 30-Mar-13 22:02:31

<waves>

Weeell,we stopped TTC after 3 umm... attempts ...because I lost my job.
And ever since I've been peeing for England,my coffee tastes like a farmyard and AF hasn't shown up yet...

How long should you wait before taking a test,if you know when you DTD but not when your period was?

AlexanderinaTheGreater Sun 31-Mar-13 14:59:29

Depends how long you can hold out! I'd've thought that assuming you'd've had to've ovulated somewhere around the date of the deed to be pregnant, 14 days after would be sensible. Whether you're feeling that sensible is another question - you might well get a BFP earlier than that.

<fingers crossed>

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