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So annoyed with myself!

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BiscuitBob · 23/05/2011 16:48

I'm one day late, managed to totally convince myself I was pregnant, so took a test which was BFN and now I feel so utterly disappointed!! I feel like such an idiot, I promised myself I would wait until Wednesday before even considering a test. Yesterday I went to the loo about a million times, to keep checking if AF had started, and even dreamed about it last night. Am I loosing my mind?

We conceived my first DS after 3 months of kind of trying, and the month he was conceived, we'd kind of decided to stop trying as thought maybe it wasn't the right time afterall, so he was a bit of a surprise. This time, came off pill in November, had weird irregular periods until February (never had that before) but since then been regular as clockwork, which is why I was so convinced this time.

I absolutely know I have no right to complain, I've been very lucky, and we're not even actively trying (only did it 3 times last month - once at very end of period and other two in the week before my period due - so knew wasn't likely to happen), so why do I feel so gutted??! I've even started to worry that its never going to happen, and that I had it too easy the first time and didn't appreciate it enough.

How can I stop obsessing about getting pregnant and just chill out and let it happen? Any advice welcome!

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Havingkittens · 23/05/2011 17:28

My main advice based on your timings mentioned is that you're not really doing it at the right time of the month. You need to be trying around the middle of your cycle ideally. Using OPKs will help you pinpoint your fertile time. Plenty of threads about that on here! Have a look.

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BiscuitBob · 23/05/2011 17:53

Thanks Havingkittens. Yes, I know you are right. We tried in the middle too and on my most fertile days (apparently) but no luck. All totally normal I know...
Probably should have posted on a related thread, but just needed to vent.
Anyway, scoffed a tonne of chocolate, and wishing we hadn't canceled our virgin wine order!
Also, feeling guilty that while I've been stressing about all this my poor little DS wasn't just staring at the telly cos he was tired, but because he was running a temperature!