I've spent the past few hours reading lots of posts on MN and it seems to me that the most positive birth experiences and least problems with tearing, stitching etc, happened to those of you who had good midwives.
The midwife I saw for my 16 week check up (it' my first baby) was not the one I'd initially seen and when I tried to ask her questions about elective caesareans and how to make the best birth choice for me - who I should talk to, where I can research, etc, etc, she just brushed me away and seemed pretty uninterested in my worries. Everything is proceeding well with my pregnancy - I'm now 25 weeks, but I've spent the last couple of months just worrying more and more about the birth and feeling utterly out of control about it. I think it's probably made worse by the fact that I am older (39) too.
Should I go for an independent midwife, or a doula? Help! Any advice welcome!
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How do you know if you have a good midwife or not?
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AlisonJB · 28/05/2008 10:52
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