Posting on behalf of a very dear freind.
Her gorgeous little boy is now 9 days old, and she's suffering a bit with feeling very low. She had a fairly traumatic labour over a couple of days, ending up in an emergency c section.
She's said that she's just progressively feeling more and more down- it's not her little boy that is giving her cause for concern (he's feeding well, sleeping as well as can be expected for a 9 day old) and she seems to have bonded really well with him (her words). I was really lucky in that I didn't have more than a few days of feeling a bit teary and emotional and so I don't want to give her the wrong sort of "there there" soothing and clucking supportive noises as I've not experienced her sadness.
She was in hospital for a week before giving birth (trying to induce her, delaying it etc etc) and she didn't get much good quality sleep in the 7 days or so before her ds was born. And of course compounded on top of that is the inevitable broken sleep of a new parent.
I think that once she gets a little bit more refreshed that will help (ok so that might not be for a while though), and she's undergone an emotionally and physically trying time and that she should be kind to herself and not expect to feel "normal" any time very soon- she's wondering now though how long she can expect to feel this way.
She's suffered from panic attacks in the past though and has had a couple in the last few days and is now worrying (don't know if excessively or not) that this is starting to morph into PND. She's also completely lost her appetite (very unlike her) and forcing herself to eat for sake of her boy, as she's breastfeeding, and this is worrying her too.
She tried to talk to her mw (who is pretty dismissive anyway, she's also my mw so know what she means) yesterday about it who brushed it off with a "yes thats normal" but I kind of feel that my lovely buddy needs some more reassurance than that.
Don't really know what the purpose of this post is but would love to be able to go back and give her some of my fellow mnetters esperiences that might help her feel less alone.
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Baby blues- when do they end? When to start worrying about pnd?
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Minkus · 19/04/2008 11:58
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