Hi everyone, I hope I am posting this in the right place, have only joined today, did post it in the 'chat' topic but got no responses, so hoping here is kinder!
I had my first baby earlier this year and really feel the need to reach out to women other than my closest handful of friends to discuss and gain insight on experiences.
I was induced at the hospital (and apparently, despite contractions, was not in labour for over 48 hours!) and after a long labour, eventually had a forceps delivery in the operating theatre as she just wasn't coming with my pushes.
My midwives at the hospital and home were wonderful and I was lucky to have the same midwife all the way through my labour.
Me and my husband had been to all of the NCT classes antenatally (taking time off or finishing work early in order to make them!) and while they have been a wonderful means of getting a social group, I can't help but feel that they did not prepare me.
I had been taught that essentially everything would be fine if I trusted my own instinct and let the midwives be second to that. Myself and other ladies also feel our group leader was against epidurals and I felt a failure by giving in to one, even though as soon as it kicked in I was so glad that I did! haha.
I wasn't prepared for a forceps birth or to stay in hospital longer while my baby was treated for a suspected infection.
I think that being so under-prepared when I had in fact had lots of education was worse than the actual events as it meant everything was scary and unexpected.
I am wondering, have any other new mums felt that the NCT had let them down? Maybe its my age (34) & I should know better, but I wish I had a more realistic view of what labour, birth and early postnatal period would be like if I'm actually seeking the information?
Any input while baby sleeps (at 7pm! imagine!) would be great xxx
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unprepared for birth, what education did you have?
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allaboutthebaby16 · 22/10/2016 19:30
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