Recently split with my ex. We have been together 6 years and already have a two year old and I'm currently 24 weeks pregnant.
We have only been split two months and he is with someone else already. This has been a massive emotional upheaval for myself and I'm thinking of seeking councelling.
Anyway, my due date is not until May but I can't stop feeling scared about how I will get through this now, second time around.
I know it's not him giving birth, it's me, bodies are amazing and will just do what they've got to and he plays no real part blah blah.
What I mean is, I'm worried about the emotional side of things and I'm worried the physical pain on top of the emotional pain and I'll just break down half way through.
I had a long back to back labour with my first daughter. From the first contraction to birth it was nearly 60 hours because she was taking ages to turn. But I managed on just paracetamol, TENS and gas and air towards the end.
This time, I am contemplating getting an epidural but I never liked the thought of having one to begin with. I just don't know how I will cope with the pain of labour and a broken heart - that sounds horribly cliche but as I'm going through all the physical pain, it will just feel like a reminder of the emotional pain of him not being there and abandoning me in this situation.
I get that I will be getting my gorgeous baby girl at the end of it and that should be all the pain relief I need but I'm just very scared of what the future holds.
What would anyone suggest? Did anyone have an epidural the second time and find it better or worse? I just want this to be as smooth as possible? =( TIA xx
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Scared of giving birth second time round following split with ex-partner
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clashofclanswidow · 01/02/2016 00:32
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