I'm 34 weeks and am surprised at how nervous I am about my upcoming birth.
My first was straightforward but medicalised, so second time round I went for a homebirth. The midwives who attended were pretty hopeless, and they managed to turn a very straightforward birth into a stressful drama by packing me off to hospital with the mistaken information that there was meconium and I was only 2cm. (There was no meconium, and baby was born within an hour of arrival, with awful hospital midwife in attendance and of course high level of monitoring as meconium was written in the notes).
Apparently 3rd births can be unpredictable - longer & more intense. The reading I have done says that this might just be down to lack of preparation, and the mistaken expectation that the baby will just fall out this time.
So I am trying to get back into 'the birth zone' - reading birth stories, doing natal hypnotherapy, but just don't feel I have the focus I had second time around.
I'm booked in to a home birth again, as I really want to get in that water (we've moved house and now have an amazing home birth team) and of course want to take the course of minimum intervention.
I have done this before (birth with no intervention or pain relief), and did a pretty good job bearing in mind I had no support from the professionals (totally lost it just before midwife realised I was 10cm, but that's allowed isn't it?). So why am I so nervous?
A friend of mine said that she felt the same about her second, but once it started her brain clicked in to gear and she was fine. Will that happen to me?
Sorry for long post - looking forward to hearing your experiences and advice.
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3rd baby - why am I nervous about the birth?
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Superarchie · 18/02/2014 21:17
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