I live overseas in Sweden with DH and DS. DS was born here in 2010. After the birth I felt extremely fragile emotionally for months after the birth. DS was an all night nurser so it was months before I got any REM sleep which didn't help. I felt quite traumatised after the birth but buried any of the "bad" bits and chose only to remember the more positive aspects of the birth. DH was a great support but we don't have any family close by to call on if we need outside help. Back then I didn't really have any friends here either and I felt quite alone and scared. At the time I worried that I was going crazy. I felt so much pressure. I wanted to be the best parent I could be. There was no room for mistakes so I gave it all I had and then some. I started feeling better after a few (4ish) months when I realised I was doing a good job.
We're expecting DC2 in 2 months time. This time my mum will be here (unless baby comes before week 38). First time around I felt calm and confident about the approaching birth but fell apart during a difficult labour in which I hallucinated (from gas). After I stopped the gas and had a walking epidural I was able to focus again and things got better.
This time I will keep well away from gas. I'm hoping to go as far as I can naturally but imagine I will opt for a walking epidural again.
Besides being scared of the birth this time I'm concerned about how I am going to be emotionally afterwards. I'd really like to avoid feeling so fragile and scared. I'm hoping it will be different this time as I'm already confident in my mothering skills. I'm also hoping that having my own mum with me at the beginning will help. She will go home a week or two after the birth.
I'm interested to hear how the weeks / months after your second child differed (emotionally) from the first time around. Especially if you were someone who found it difficult first time like I did.
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Emotions in the weeks/months after a second birth. Different to first time? What was your experience?
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MammaCici · 04/03/2013 16:28
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