Hi all
I've been advised to come here and seek advice or opinions by my midwife who has been fantastic but has said to me honestly that if she were in my position she wouldn't know what to do.
I'm due Feb next year and this will be my 3rd son.
Ryan is 3 was 11 days over due I was induced and weighed 8lb.13
Adam is 1. was two days over due and weighed 7lb 11.
With Ryan I had a 3rd degree tear. Pretty nasty rushed into theater to be sewn back together. Took about 6 months to fully recover and was lucky as I didn't loose and control of my bladder or bowels.
With Adam I had a 2nd degree tear less traumatic but again took 6. Months for me to fully recover. And once again I regained full control.
I did all my perennial massage. Before Adam to avoid a tear but guess it was one of those things.
Here's where I need your help or opinion
I've been offered a choice of c section or natural birth. I am strongly for natural birth but what's concerning me is why I'm being given the choice? As I wasn't offered one with my second. My consultant and midwife both say its because I tore both times and its more for my mental state than safety. There's every chance I may tear again but like most things there are no guarantees. In just thinking would I be lucky enough to recover fully a third time? And with a section it does frighten me. The thought of the recovery process and although I will have a lot of help I'm going to find it near impossible to take it easy after with my two little ones.
If anyone has had a similar experience or just has an opinion for me I would be very grateful to hear it xx
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Jenny123G · 14/11/2012 22:38
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