16 (nearly 17yo) DSis has been suffering from depression and tried to overdose on paracetamol a few days ago, she ended up in hospital but thankfully her physical health was not affected. She has also self harned several times in the past by cutting her arms and legs, though we don't think she has done this for a number of weeks now, but we can't be sure.
She had been referred to CAMHS last year after an awful time at school which culminated in her leaving mid-term. She refused to go to appointments at all beyond the first one and mum had to just let it go. DSis decided to go to college and things seemed to be getting better (though not perfect).
A couple of months ago things started to get worse again, we know she went back to hurting herself and she asked to be referred back to the psychiatrist, which she was only this time they are seeing her as an adult because she is over 16 and at college- so my parents are completely out of the picture and no-one is really telling them anything or offering any advice.
She has agressive mood swings, she can be laughing with us one minute and then swearing at us and slamming doors the next. When she is "on a downer" she spends alot of time in her room and in bed and wont really speak to us. She says that she has felt this way her whole life/has never fitted in/hates herself/ is shit at everything/ is never happy or ok.
She was in hospital this week following attempted OD and had an appointment with psychiatrist the following day (previously arranged, just so happened she tried to OD the day before) but now has to wait another four weeks to see someone again. Parents and I both feel this is too long between appointments given recent events, but parents are unsure what they can do since she is being seen as an independent adult.
Can they ask ger psychiatrist for some help or advice themselves ( they have no desire to invade DSis privacy or find anything out) about what they can do to help? Are they still in a position where they could insist she is seen more frequently in the short term, or does this have to come from my DSis? She still lives with them and is under their care, if she had stayed at school would still be under CAMHS so mum feels like she should still have a bit of an insight. DSis would clam up completely and would absolutely not request being seen sooner herself- she wont really say much about it at all and we don't want to put her off going altogether by putting pressure on her to talk.
sorry, very long post but if anyone has any advice about what we can do to help her, or where my parents can seek some advice, and where they stand in terms of how much input they have with DSis care, we would really appreciate it. Thankyou.
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Child mental health
How can we help 16yo DSis?
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HomeSkillet · 29/05/2014 20:30
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