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My dad has been in hopsial for nine weeks. He is disabled anyway and with a couple of different medical conditions and it now looks as though he is going to be catheterised for the rest of his life. (He is 76). He was supposed to have a urology op last week do get rid of the catheter but it got cancelled half an hour before he was off to the theatre because the surgeon noticed in his notes that he also has a disc problem in his spine which he also "waiting" for an op for but which I doubt he'll get now because he will undoubtedly be considered unfit for that too (it's a operation.)
Despite all this he is not actually ill (he has prostate cancer but its well under control) but I can see he is not going to be able to go home becaue "home" is just sheltered housing with carers (and DH and I) calling. He is going to need more care than that; not because of the catheter but because of the mobility issue more than anything. (He can't walk/stand unaided now because of his back.)
I am finding it almost impossible to liaise with the urology and spinal teams and my inability to make them liaise with each other is what resulted in Dad almost having an op which could have been dangerous for him. Tonight I asked a staff nurse who I need to talk to arrange future stuff and have been given a social services contact. SS are already aware of him obviously as they employ the agency that handled his care at home until he went into hopsital.
What happens next? What sort of choice do we get about homes? What is the difference between residential care and a nursing home and who decides which my dad needs? How do I know if they are any good and if the staff are nice to the residents? How do I know which ones will be covered by my dad's pensions/benefits? (He is not a person of means).
I am clueless. I hope to find out some of this tomorrow when I speak to the SS woman but wondered if anyone could shed any light. I feel as if I am making it up as I go along and the hospital (apart from a handful of nice/competant nurses) are useless re info.
Does anyone have any advice?
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ShinyHappyPeopleEatingEggs · 18/04/2007 21:41
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