Just wondered, really. DW and I are 200 miles from my ageing parents. Other siblings are even further away. My father had a sudden illness recently and we thought he was getting better - now it appears the hospital aren't happy and they are making mutterings about nursing homes. It seems they can do no more. Basically they're saying, he's taking up a hospital bed, let's talk about getting him outta here.
All this has been a major shock to my mother, and although we've visited twice since it happened, it's not ideal providing support over the phone......
I imagine this is why people never move away from their parents. Or move back closer to them.
I know naff-all about nursing homes. if someone can fill me in I'd be really grateful. How do you choose a good one? are they just places people are sent to vegetate or can they be pleasant places? Is it like choosing a school, where everyone wants the best ones and you get the dross if you sign up late? Are there private ones and state ones? How much do they cost, and how do they decide how much you pay? How much independence do people get in them? Is it likely that, as my parents worked all their lives they'd be expected to pay for it in full?
Am totally clueless. Talk to me like an idiot please.
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UnquietDad · 02/02/2007 17:11
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