This will be long, I've had a bit of a upsetting 24 hours, and need to let this all out! My eldest boy, DT1 aged nearly 14 moved to a new school last term. Initially all went well, but towards the end he was pulling sickies and not keen to go in. We asked him, his brother and his tutor if there was anything up but it was all negative. His report wasn't brilliant and he wasn't happy with it but still didn't mention any problems to us. Yesterday he was pale and quiet when he came home, I asked if he was ok and he said yes, but just before bedtime he said he felt sick and dizzy, and then said that a boy had hit him. I asked how much he had hurt him, and whether he had reported it to someone. After drop of this morning, went to make an appointment to talk to his tutor, but saw him on the way in and was called over to discuss incident with me - apparantely it was a fairly major fight, with DT1 being suspended upside down by this boy, and then punched in head twice...(wish they'd mentioned it to me last night, but there you go). This boy is not unknown for picking on smaller boys, and had been hauled up in front of tutor, and head and asked for explanation which he gave and then was asked to apologise to my boy which he did. There was a meeting between those in charge of my boy and other child and we were called back and informed of what decisions had been made, in meantime I have DT1 off today "too frightened to go in", (which I reported to his teacher). I think the school have got a grip on this and seem to be acting as they should - they've promised that the other boy will be watched and reprimanded where relevant, and that my boy will also be watched and protected. He's promised to write any incidents down, and to talk to any member of staff at any time, so I think he feels better. What I need to know is how do I support him - not go on about it (he's not a great one for talking about feelings), go on about it, joke about it.....feel a bit helpless as to how to provide the moral support and boost his confidence back up. Any suggestions as to how I should handle from now on would be much appreciated, plus thoughts on whether the school seems to be dealing with it ok. The thing is, I don't really want to make things worse for either my son, or this other boy - I feel sympathy for him too strangely enough, and hope that he can get himself sorted, although he had a reputation as a troublemaker so it's obviously not going to be a quick fix for him. Nightmare day all round really!
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