I sense the problem, often, in dealing with bullying is that schools are more and more reluctant to take what parents would consider is appropriate action once bullying is reported. Concern that proof is difficult to obtain (bullies are smart enough to know to do their worst away from the eyes of teachers) and modern 'liberal' thinking around punishment combine to invariably mean that schools take the easy option and wait for the 'bullied' to move schools rather than confront the issue head-on. It doesn't seem believable, for those of us schooled fifty years ago, that schools these days seem afraid to say 'stop and don't do it' when bullying is reported. The additional problem today seems to be a general reluctance to actually punish-a sense that bully and victim are both 'victims' and need to be considered equally. As I commented on an earlier thread my daughter was badly bullied some years ago at Wimbledon High School-and we ended up moving her to another school (where she blossomed-she is now at university). We could never understand why very little action was taken and ,when it was, how ineffectual it was-despite the School noting that it had (and has) a strict anti-bullying policy. We ran into the 'if we can't see it happening then we can't take action' argument-even though we made it clear that the bullying was out of sight of teachers and much of it was via email and 'cyber'. Then we were told that the way to deal with bullies -rather than just simply telling them to stop-is to get bully and victim in a room and 'talk' to them together-which of course simply reinforces the bully's feeling that they will not be punished (and they never were). Of course frequent visits to the school only create in the school's mind the impression that the problem is with your child-again reinforced by your child becoming reluctant to go to school and isolating themselves which the school then say is why she is being bullied......For us we found ourselves completely unsupported and adrift (and we were paying fees for our daughter's schooling as well!) in a vicious circle. So we gave up in the end and moved her to a different school-where she was, thankfully never bullied again. Were we just unlucky or are schools failing in how they actually deal with bullying (as opposed to what they say they will do)?
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