want to help a friend....with 18 months old girl...

[sasa15]

wake up several times at night 6-7...maybe...doesn't take bottle...
only breastfeed...all the times...specially at night.,..
solid during the day...not much...

she back work....
baby doesn;t eat much...with her dad at the moment(is not working for a while)....doesn;t have any nap during the day...


got her in a bad routine since birth...while guest in someone house...for first year....
didn;t want her cry and make noise....
so breat all the time...to keep her quite...

she back from work...and had in her breast few times...she goes down at 7 pm and the wake up every 2 -3 hours...looking for more breast...

she hasn't got much milk...and she won't take bottles.....

how can I help?????

what to do?

tried control cry...she got read scream and vomit....

[sasa15]

oops few mispelling....

she got red , scream and cry with control cry,,,

[NotQuiteCockney]

Unfortunately, vomiting is something some kids do with CC (that being said, I know it would make me wimp out of the whole process).

A few suggestions: 1. Is she sleeping with the kid? If she's ok with feeding in the night, if she cosleeps, everyone gets more sleep.

2. She can go hardcore and do cc. The Ferber way to cut down night feeds is to reduce the time they go on for ... 10 minutes the first night, 9 the next, etc. Sounds stupid, but it does work. You're meant to deal with vomiting by calmly clearing up and just carrying on. (Sounds tough!)

3. She can try some no-cry baby solutions. She can have the father go in to comfort her daughter at night. She can try to encourage her daughter to find other ways to go to sleep - I assume she's falling asleep while on the boob now? If so, what's happening is, that's the only way her daughter knows how to sleep - so when she surfaces between sleep cycles, she is confused and upset and only boob will soothe her. It's something like how you'd feel if your pillow disappeared while you slept.

Sounds tough. I assume your friend is unhappy? Is the child a good size?

[EMM999]

I had a similar problem, I didn't have enough milk to feed large baby & he would cry when hugry and demand breast (which would be dry) I used to put him next to chest and slowly introduced a bottle in the mouth at same time as breast, he soon learnt there was more in bottle than breast. Started by using breast milk in bottle and had to use a selection of different teets until I found one he liked, but within 2 weeks and a fair bit of patience I managed to switch. I really don't advise taking the baby into your bed as this will really become a problem later on. IF you can make a bed in the baby's room so they are used to falling asleep in their own room, they are then less traumatised when waking as they are in the same safe place they fell asleep. But make sure they have a good feed before going to sleep, they tend to sleep longer, if they are eating solids, something like a banana mashed with a bit of warm milk and if you can add a bit of baby rice as a thickner, this will keep them going a bit longer and she might get a bit more sleep. Good Luck

[Fran1]

I stopped bf dd at 2 years, had intended on giving up at a year, but only tried half heartedly.

The last few months leading up to her second birthday, i talked about it a lot with her, saying she was going to be "grown up" and wouldn't need boobie anymore etc. We had a little joke between us, if she tried to go for my boob i would laugh and say you're not a baby. Dd used to think this was funny - and often that was enough for her to decide to not feed.
Also, i avoided close cuddles with her at times i knew she'd normally try for a feed. That was hard, but worth doing, or at least wear several layers so their little hands can't go delving.
Very gradually, feeds got less and less until it all fizzled out without any fuss. Now she says mummy's boobies don't work anymore, and is fine about it.
This coincided with quite a few changes such as moving into big girls bed, potty training and going to pre-school. I think it really helped that lots of things in her life we were describing as grown up girl things, and she was feeling quite special.

[sasa15]

thank you everyone...yes baby is a good size...
but don't know other details..I will pass your message and hopefully will help...