orry to combine topics but this is all interlinked!
DD is 17 weeks now, and I expected this conversation to happen fairly soon but it is still bothering me and I need advice.
DD has started waking early in the morning again (a combination of her age I think and the fact that we are putting her to bed earlier and no longer waking her for a feed at 10.30). My mum insists that I should give her baby rice. She tells me that this will guarantee that she goes though the night. I don't want to, though I can't really explain why.
I also want to do baby led weaning. This didn't go down well with my mum. She seems to think that breast milk is not going to sustain her till 6 months, also that babies need purees to learn to chew.
Of course her babies never went through a funny stage (of fussy feeding and waking more frequently) at 4 months. And we were weaned at 4 months so it's ok, no baby ever came to any harm by being weaned at 4 months.
On a slight tangent to this topic (I might post this in breast and bottle feeding too) my mum (who doesn't agree with me bfing and tells me at every opportunity to put DD on formula) thinks that if I give DD formula she will also go through the night, and won't be fussy, and I am "making a rod for me own back" by demand feeding dd. DD need to be able to detatch from me, and babies "like a routine"
Sorry this is so long, in a nutshell, what I want to know is:
- Reasons that I can give my mum why I don't want to give DD baby rice (the fact that it is my choice is not good enough)
- Good reasons to pursue BLW, that my mum will appreciate
- that if I put DD on formula/baby rice she won't necessarily "go through the night" (until recently she slept 11-7, and now sleeping 9-5ish, which I think is not bad for 4 months)
- that I am doing the right thing by demand feeding DD still
- that 4 months is commonly acknowledged to be a growth spurt/fussy stage
TBH, me and DH agree that it is our choice, and it is none of my mum's business, but she is taking it very personally that I am not doing things her way, so I need a defense (I'm so sick of having to defend my decisions!). Please help!