off topic subsequant pregnancys after 4th degree tear ...what did you do cs or vaginal birth

[kittenbaby]

hope you guys dont mind me asking you lot in here this
its just that your such a wise fab lot i love to hear your views xxxx
and youve really helped keep me going with bf

hi girls im still struggling to get over my repair op for fourth degree tears in childbirth.
dd will be 7 weeks on wed
for the first three weeks i didnt feel like i was getting better at all
really would be interested to hear from anyone thats had this and if and how they had anymore children


i did so well during the labour and giving birth
only had gas and air during the labour and nothing at the pushing stage
apart from the fact i was in the water
thought everything had gone so well
after dd was born i delivered the plactena naturally after nearly and hour while bf dd
and i thought thats it ive done it!

then when i was examined the mw said we need to get someone more senior to look at you the look of horror on her face im not sure ill forget
then a sister examined me then a doctor then a surgeon they said i had 4th degree tears
i never knew anything like that existed and that id have to have a spinal tap and a repair operation
i was crying my eyes out even though when i was in labour and giving birth i was pretty silent and just got on with it
i found the examinations far far far worse than the labour and birth
thats was the worse bit
never knew natrual childbirth could do this to you
ive been reserching 4th degree tears on the net to see how long its gonna take me to get over it and to see if i can get any tips
and it doesnt sounds good
it seems as if 4th degree tears are v v uncommon and i just cant understand how this has happened to me
like if i had had an epidural or even pethidine and had lost the urge to push and had to had forceps or vontouse and that had caused it then i could understand why it happened
or if dd got stuck and they had to rush her out , or if she came out the wrong way round
or if i pushed before i was 10cm or baby was really big [dd was 8 4 and a half] i could understand it obv im glad those things didnt happen but then id understand what happened

but i only had gas and air
was on all fours
was in the water
only pushed when i was told to do so
i just cant understand it
there seems no reason for this to of happened
so does this make it even more likly to happen again as there is NOTHING i could do differently next time

been thinking about if id ever have another baby in the future
and wondered what your experiences where? esp regarding cs or vb

[MerlinsBeard]

i can't help with your post but i wonder f you might not be better to post in childbirth or pregnancy rather than feeding?

[ginnypotter]

i have posted on your other thread

[kittenbaby]

hi ginny ive posted on the other thread too
xxxxx

[crystaltips80]

Hi Kittenbaby,
Just like yourself, I suffered from a 4th degree tear, only mine was due to a forcep delivery. I was stitched and then refered for physio which i gave up after a year cos i found it very embarrassing (although now I wish I stuck to it as I am still suffering now). I went on to become pregnant with my second child and was told by the consultant that I would have to have a planned section and there were no if and buts about it. I had my second child last year but then suffered from infections due to being a big lass and having a rubbish healing system. Eleven months on my wound from my c secion finally started healing only to find out that I'm pregnant again. I'm at my witts end as to how I'm gonna give birth. Don't want to risk another tear and also don't want to risk more infections by having another c section. My MW is talking about having an elective apiesiotomy Where they wil make a slight cut at the start of my labour but make the cut slightly angled so it will not tear through the anus again, risk being, my old scar could tear again. I am back seeing the consultant in November to discuss the options.

[kittenbaby]

hi ct sorry to hear you had to go though this
it really is a terribloe experience isnt it

i can understand how you feel its a totally shit [excuse the pun lol] choice really isnt it

hpw many weeks are you ?
what way do u think your leaning at the moment vb or cs?
i wish you the best of luck xx

ive just got my appointment though for
seeing the consaultant at the hosp
and been thinking of what questions to ask

this is what ive thought of so far

1. why do you think this happened
   
2. could of it been avoided
   
3. how will it effect me in the future
   
4. future children cs or vaginal
   
5. when will i stop being in pain
   
6. when will i stop having nightmares over this ?[could be difficult to answer ,i know]
   
   
   can you think of any others
   
   im so so scared feel like i cant go through with it
   but i guess i have to