Hi, really need advice. My second son is 5 weeks old and breastfed. My husband works nights. I have a muscle condition which amongst other things results in weak wrists. My son is incredibly hard to wind. I have tried every position that I can think of or find online. As a result he screams in pain after each night feed. Occasionally he does bring it up and then sleeps in his moses basket but most of the time if I hold him upright on me he can drop off but shuffles and screams with pain every 10-15 mins until an hour or so after the feed when he throws up. I need ideas. At the moment all I can think is he needs to go into temporary foster care and hopefully one day I'd get him back but I can't bear to do it. My husband can't switch from nights to days and there isn't anyone else to help at night time. Please, there must be something I can do? I sat and cried as he screamed and was going to look up the number for local social services but thought I would try here first. It must sound so stupid but I hope it makes some sense and that someone has the advice I need
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Sorry you had no replies so far. There will be more helpful people who will come along, I just wanted to offer a handhold. I've been at the depths of despair through windy baby in the past, it does get better I promise, but that won't help right now!
Have you tried infacol? That worked really well for us, you have to stick with it though, it's not an instant solution, it has to build up in their system before it works (I think about a week of giving before every feed) but it really did help our boy with his wind.
Gripe water is good too but they have to be a bit older for that (I can't exactly remember how old sorry)
I'm a little out of touch with babies but my ds was incredibly hard to wind.
He didn't get sick after feeds but cried for hours with awful pains.
I found the first few months of his life really stressful. I just couldn't cope with the crying.
Personally looking back on it i was definitely postnatally depressed. My gp touched on it numerous times but i lied because i was terrified they would take him away. I had no reason for this as he was perfectly cared for, it was me who was exhausted and because he was my first I had nothing to compare it to.
I wish i had spokento my gp honestly as my dc's first few months could have been so different.
No one understands what a windy baby is like unless you have one. It's so hard. The hardest thing I've ever done. I thought all babies were like this until i had my second.
Because you said your baby is getting sick, could it be reflux? Please speak to your gp about this as well.
For what its worth my ds is now a fantastic 9 year old whom i love more than anything. He his the highlight of every day. Good luck op. Remember it doesn't last forever
Gosh, please don't think you would have to give up your baby just because you're struggling with wind. It is really hard and will be even more exhausting at night when your husband is at work. Do you have any family or friends that could help out? You sound like you need some support.
Do speak to the gp about both the wind and how you are feeling in yourself. They are there to help. They had to keep an eye on me after having dd2 as I was very down due to heath complications after the birth but I never felt like they would get social services involved unnecessarily and 3 months later I'm feeling much better in myself, even though dd still has reflux issues!
Good luck getting it sorted
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