DS is 3 wo today. He was a big baby (10.3)but lost a lot of his birthweight (still not back there yet- have next weigh in weds). Pretty traumatic birth, in hospital (including stint in scbu) for a week. I am not quite ebf, but pretty close. I am just finding it an utterly miserable grind and need some advice/ talking round/ arse kicking. He has a crap latch (in fact the only way I can get him bf is with nipple shields, but once he is on with those, he's feeding fine). I just feel totally pinned to the sofa/ nursing chair and now my back and wrists are really sore from trying to hold him. DH does one formula feed in the evenings to give me some time to have my dinner.
My DD (3) is acting up at bedtime because mummy is stuck with the baby, and daddy just won't do. Part of me thinks tough, the other part of me feels like the worlds worst mum- all I seem to say to her is in a minute when I have finished with the baby.
I don't really know what I want here, maybe just a rant- I am being a bit ridiculous as I never really got bf going with DD and I beat myself up for ages- I would have killed to have been able to keep it going like this for as long as I have now. Maybe some advice on. Latching him on without the shield. I keep trying, but he doesn't seem to be able to get enough boob in his mouth. I know what should be happening, it just isn't... I can't make it to the bf group this week, and to be honest, none of the mws/ hvs/ LCs have managed to sort out the latch issue thus far just said keep trying him without the shield. It is currently the only way I can keep bf.
God, this is whiny and self indulgent. Does it get easier? Please?? I think if I can just get to weds and if he is back to his birthweight I may feel better about this. I want to be able to do things again, not spend all my days stuck inside feeding and watching shit telly.
DS is a fab little baby though, utterly gorgeous, and hilarious. I really just want to spend more time enjoying him and not angsting about BF .
Thanks if you've got this far. Extra thanks if you have any advice/ stern words/ grips to be handed over...
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beastling · 08/06/2015 22:46
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