I was involved in a conversation today, about a relative of a friend, who has a 3-week old baby.
I was appalled to hear that this poor girl's family have labelled her as "not coping very well" because she is demand feeding and therefore not getting much sleep, as baby feeding every 2 hours at night. Apparently also she is reluctant to BF in front of others, and therefore not going out (think I had gone as far as the corner of the road at 3 weeks!), so for these two reasons her family (friend included) are trying to get her to stop BF and put him on the bottle. Her DS is apparently thriving and she has a good supply.
I was absolutely gobsmacked at teh comments that I was hearing, so much so that I bowed out of the conversation as I felt I could not carry on without saying what I thought. I was so angry but I didn;t want to start a row with these people as I work with them, but I feel so incensed and sorry for this poor woman.
The main comments were:
"The only bit of BF that really matters is the first couple of days, after that there's absolutely no difference between breast & bottle".
"She doesn;t understand, she needs to get him into a routine"
"She isn;t getting out & about she's just staying home feeding him all the time" (said as a criticism).
I think I feel most angry at myslef for not putting my views across but honestly it is no BLOODY wonder that so many women prefer to try & go it alone rather than listen to such complete clap trap, even at teh risk of alienating their families, and then because they have no positive support, probably end up getting really anxious and maybe even depressed.
All this girl needs is for her family to come round and do her hoovering and cook her a meal, not blo*dy well fill up bottles for her.
Sorry but I'm soooo
I hope she finds MN soon!
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Feel very angry about conversation today..
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FrayedKnot · 19/07/2006 14:16
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